Take something like prioritizing household resources. Maybe I’m in favor of repairing a toilet, she’s in favor of repairing a door to a bathroom. Both function, but to a bare minimum. They both take extra effort to make viable, and the repair is going to be roughly the same cost.
We’d sit down and just talk, explain why one or the other makes more sense as the priority. In this example, I’d likely talk about the chances of future repairs if the toilet isn’t fixed first. She might argue that the door not closing well makes the room colder, and thus encourages the water being hotter, which costs more energy.
We’d price out things, see if there was a clear path to one being faster than the other, if we can do the work or not, etc.
If we can’t find a reason that one is better than the other, we just agree to fall back to picking one arbitrarily. Flip a coin, play a game for who decides, whatever.
That’s the basic process, and an example of a real disagreement (though we figured out that the toilet was a higher priority because of what was wrong, and didn’t need to go further).
What kind of disagreements do you have that get resolved respectfully?
Take something like prioritizing household resources. Maybe I’m in favor of repairing a toilet, she’s in favor of repairing a door to a bathroom. Both function, but to a bare minimum. They both take extra effort to make viable, and the repair is going to be roughly the same cost.
We’d sit down and just talk, explain why one or the other makes more sense as the priority. In this example, I’d likely talk about the chances of future repairs if the toilet isn’t fixed first. She might argue that the door not closing well makes the room colder, and thus encourages the water being hotter, which costs more energy.
We’d price out things, see if there was a clear path to one being faster than the other, if we can do the work or not, etc.
If we can’t find a reason that one is better than the other, we just agree to fall back to picking one arbitrarily. Flip a coin, play a game for who decides, whatever.
That’s the basic process, and an example of a real disagreement (though we figured out that the toilet was a higher priority because of what was wrong, and didn’t need to go further).