I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.

For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.

I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.

Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.

What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    24 hours ago

    There is Viagra cream for women. I’m cis and lady but MHT kind of muted my response (not to the point I can’t get off, it is just not usually as intense), and I don’t use it but have seen it marketed, it is used to increase genital sensitivity. Maybe ask your doctor about that too.

    I was going to ask though - do you cum in dreams still? Do you feel turned on and frustrated, or just less turned on?

    • JuicyJessIsFun@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      23 hours ago

      That’s really interesting, about the cream. I definitely feel frustrated whenever I am turned on, since I know that there is nowhere to go with it. I vaguely remember a couple of sexual dreams, but they involved a woman (which is weird because I date and have sex with men exclusively). I’ve tried being with women in the past, but it is absolutely not my thing.

      I hope my doctor will be able to help me.