I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.
For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.
I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.
Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.
What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?
How deep in the rabbit hole have you delved already?
I’m talking about different lubricants, toys, temperatures, materials, locations, amount of people at the same time, kinks, smut/porn, angles, positions, pressure, length (in time) etc.
I’ve found that I like coconut oil for lubricant. I’ve tried different dildos, even Tenga Eggs. I’ve done it in cars, hotels, and houses. I’ve only ever been with one person at a time as the opportunity for more has never arisen. Not sure what you mean by temps and materials?
I do have kinks, and do derive pleasure from them, but they aren’t really ideal to do often (they leave visual marks). Even though I get pleasure from the kinks, it doesn’t lead to anything. It’s more of a controlling pain sort of thing I suppose.
I’m completely unable to orgasm with a partner, only by myself using porn and a vibrator. Though I suppose I don’t actually need porn.
Ice or hot candle wax comes first to my mind.
Leather and latex comes first to my mind about materials.
So I’ll assume that they have tried a vibrator on you.