I’m 37MTF, and haven’t had an actual orgasm in a…very long time. The last one I experienced was when I relapsed on coke, and it was amazing. Prior to that, I’d say it has been 10+ years since my last orgasm. I don’t plan on falling off again any time soon, so I don’t know what to do.
For a long time, I derived my pleasure from satisfying whichever random guy I was having an encounter with. This worked for so many years, but I’ve grown tired of it now.
I think it is the HRT I am on that has extinguished my ability to cum. I won’t stop taking it, but I want to feel it again—I’ve forgotten.
Receiving oral does nothing for me, being penetrated is nice, but I’m over it.
What suggestions might you have? What can I do? Or do I need to try to learn to enjoy it again? If so, how?
I’ve found that I like coconut oil for lubricant. I’ve tried different dildos, even Tenga Eggs. I’ve done it in cars, hotels, and houses. I’ve only ever been with one person at a time as the opportunity for more has never arisen. Not sure what you mean by temps and materials?
I do have kinks, and do derive pleasure from them, but they aren’t really ideal to do often (they leave visual marks). Even though I get pleasure from the kinks, it doesn’t lead to anything. It’s more of a controlling pain sort of thing I suppose.
I’m completely unable to orgasm with a partner, only by myself using porn and a vibrator. Though I suppose I don’t actually need porn.
Ice or hot candle wax comes first to my mind.
Leather and latex comes first to my mind about materials.
So I’ll assume that they have tried a vibrator on you.