• Kairos@lemmy.today
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    4 days ago

    OK? I guess it’s good that we talk about things instead of surpressing them.

    • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
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      4 days ago

      I think it’s a double-edged sword sorta situation. Yes, it’s good that people are talking about issues they would have suppressed in the past, but there are also those who do actually use this language to elevate minor conflict to abuse.

      I used to live with a guy who dated a string of them. I have vivid memories of this exact behavior. One girl was living on our couch because she was broke from calling out of work to do whippits and play video games; one time I heard her on the phone with her dad, calling him abusive because he wouldn’t send her $100 for a haircut. That was a long conversation with some extremely charged psychological accusations.

      So yeah, it’s good that we’re talking about actual trauma and abuse, but it also introduces undesirable side effects.