I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
thank you moderator
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
oh also shower every other day, use deoderant without shit additives every day, change socks & underwear every day, make your bed instead of letting your mom do it (especially when your room smells like teen spirit), open a window to air out your room everytime before you invite somene over, learn to use a washing machine, learn to floss your teeth, use conditioner after you’ve rinsed your schampoo, learn how to clean the toilet after you & how to wipe yourself in the front (shaking isn’t enough among adults AND shaking excessively can easily damage your tube), trim your nosehair… i could go on with life lessons i’ve gathered that came to mind after reading your post. little details of adult life that are learnt in silence and not really spoken about in media outlets- but that got taught to me by older people and partners having an embarassing conversation about growing up. sucks to learn the hard way, worse to never learn these at all. domestic things regarding hygiene is rarely spoken about, but it’s so friccin interesting to learn about “how to do it right”. especially as a young adult who’ve never been taught to properly take care of yourself. like shaving with a barber’s knife, sewing back buttons and patching holes in clothes.
it may be more big and suspenseful times to live in but these boring hygiene habits apply to adults now since the beginning of the parliamentary society in the 1900s. hygiene is less prevalent in immature adults and more prevalent in mature adults. ik it sucks to do, i have diagnoses of all kinds, but it’s a sign of being a responsible adult to keep hygiene habits.
those cis-men who joke about men being beasts and cavemen aren’t more masculine, just derogatory towards other men’s potential. the manliest man isn’t scared or toothfloss and doing dishes. weaker cowards make up excuses to not take responsibility for their hygiene.
for deodrant part, i have skin problems due to which my dermatologist has forbade me to use perfumes and deodrants on my skin
fair and valid! :)
Buy a plunger BEFORE you need one
On a related note, own a fire extinguisher before you need one.
Also learn how to use both before you need to.
Be nice to others, be honest, keep out of trouble, don’t hang out with people who create trouble, and work on yourself.
Use sunscreen.
i do. and it is best thing i could do. People call me girly for doing it but skincare is for everyone
The people who call you girly are idiots. Having said that, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being girly. I much prefer that to toxic masculinity.
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Just post the song for him.
I just have one. Smart people learn from their mistakes. Wise people learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t live long enough to make all the mistakes yourself.
18yo old
That’s like “ATM Machine”
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
Meaning can be found in pain and we all face that.
don’t make a kid
Hey! I was a kid
Don’t stop training, don’t eat shitty food (at least, not daily), don’t believe anything you hear or read and always double check it.
Go to the dentist, ask them how to take care of your teeth for the next 80 years, and do it.
If that means cutting down on soda, or acidic espressos, or candy do it.
If that means buying an expensive electric toothbrush with better toothpaste do it.
yeah i got braces last year and it is worth it. definitely gonna do it
The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do
Thefuck?
Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.
How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as an unsuitable form of leisure at that age is insane.
The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.
They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.
Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.
I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.
Music does not “require” physical effort or social interaction. The same goes for books, movies and tv. Would you dismiss those, too?
Video games are an art medium, with exceptions to every one of your points.
Motion control games require tons of physical effort.
Multiplayer games literally cannot be played without other people.
There are games for couples, friends, parties, and quiet alone time.
It’s an entire art medium, one which INCLUDES entire other art mediums like writing, music, acting, and more.
Your opinion is based on an incredible narrow interpretion of what video games are and can be. Or perhaps you haven’t checked in on gaming in around two decades.
Either way it’s resulting in absolutely horrendous advice.
Only a tiny number of the games I play and have played, are ones I would hold off on until I’m over 30 and married. Some people find their spouses because of gaming.
A LOT of games I played had their biggest impact around my 20s.
I have no interests in games when I am playing life as a game
Sit down pee when you’re visiting a friend’s house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.
I’ve never understood the desire to stand while peeing. Sure; when you’ve got too - like outside - or if a toilet is filthy and you don’t want to touch it; but I’ve always been happy to take the opportunity to sit my lazy ass down for a minute. Plus I never have to worry about aim or cleaning up if I miss.
i do it yeah cuz I don’t have urinals in my surroundings
As someone who wishes someone had told me… Adults don’t know what we are doing either. It took me way too long to realize I’m not an imposter pretending to be an adult, we are all just kind of winging it.
As you grow older you’ll have seen more stuff and it will be a little easier, but I can attest I don’t have a clue what’s for dinner, just like I don’t know what new headache the next meeting will bring. Live life for life’s sake, the clock will keep ticking whether you’re ready or not.
Im probably not wise enough to give advice, but in general I think it’s while you are young that taking big risks is more worth the trade offs.
Im talking risks like career wise or investment wise, business wise, etc.
