So, the first time I read this, I interpreted it as these guys spent their whole lives saying they should hang out, but never got around to it.
But then, I was like, “Hey, if their graves are next to each other, they’re totally hanging out in the last panel.”
And I realized that you put people’s names on their tombstones. So, is the comic really just two guys with really weird names who are repeatedly greeting each other by saying each other’s names at various times in their lives? If their graves are next to each other, maybe they even got married or something.
“we should get married sometime!”
“totally!”
The sad part is that I’ve seen old friends do this to each other for decades … then got terribly sad at the funeral of the first friend that died.
Now I’m realizing I’m doing the same thing
:(
Then do different! Hang out with that person… SOON! (Make a plan to do it TODAY! or at least a decision)
I hate how true this is
You have to invite people to specific things, not just a vague idea.
I just finished hanging out with a friend-couple. We did yardwork and drank tea. lol
Create a plan and then invite people to it:
“I’m going to this concert next month, come along?”
“I’m going for dinner later, join?”
“I’m bringing down the patriarchy from within and i would love for you to be there.”
“I’m doing x because y. You should come with.”It’s tiring tho if you are the only plannin dude. :< Have two friends of “We should hang out sometime!” variety and being the one who always has to grab them and nail down a plan is draining xD And it’s not like they don’t want to hang out and throw out empty words - they are just absolutely incapable of doing the planing. xD
Yeah, super tiring and i get tired of hearing no. After asking someone a few times and it never working out i take it as a hint.
The left gravestone:
“We should have hung out more :’(”Last time someone offered me to hang out I must’ve been in college. Over 20 years ago.
Who says they’re not hanging out? Maybe they’re good lifelong friends?
So that are their nicknames?!
Ded, Dedd, and (off screen) Deddy.
If all your friends are permabusy, there’s always the possibility that it is something to do with you. Perhaps your personality is obnoxious, or your hygiene isn’t up to scratch, or you have an annoying laugh, or something else that hasn’t occurred to you but nobody is going to be the jerk to tell you to your face how exactly you suck as a person.
Damn, not what I needed to hear right now, that one stung.
I’d be careful posting shit like that in future, whilst I don’t disagree and it’s entirely possible, I’m not sure what good can come from suggesting that idea to random strangers on the internet. It could really fuck some people up.
I call these Thought Poisons. They’re legitimately dangerous for some. I aborted reading the comment when i saw the direction it was headed. 😋
I define it thusly:
A Thought Poison is a specific type of harmful or toxic mental construct that adversely affects a person’s psychological and emotional state. These thoughts can be pervasive, self-destructive, or deeply unsettling, and may cause an individual to spiral into feelings of anxiety, depression, paranoia, or hopelessness. Thought Poisons can also do damage over time by altering one’s perception of reality, self-worth, and future, much like how poison can slowly damage the body.OTOH, if this is the case, the alternative is denial.
Everyone has had situations in which they’ve avoided spending time with someone because it would have been a downer, due to that person being difficult, annoying or otherwise unpleasant. That is a thing that happens, and pretending it doesn’t won’t make it go away. The good news is that if you know that something you do gets people down and makes them less likely to make time for you, you can change it, or compensate for it in another way. If you remain in denial, that path is closed to you.
