The problem is that it really hard not to be like your parents. Kids learn by mirroring the behavior of adults and if the adults are poorly behaved it has a massive impact.
It is hard to know how to be loving if you were never loved
it’s not hard if you understand your parents are idiots who make bad choices and their not loving you or treating you well is also a product of their bad choices.
and then at some point you will have to take care of them and that will further make you realize how stupid they are/were.
abuse is a choice. you can choose not to abuse people if you were abused.
true though, that most don’t and view their abuse as a justification for their abusing others.
The problem is that it really hard not to be like your parents. Kids learn by mirroring the behavior of adults and if the adults are poorly behaved it has a massive impact.
It is hard to know how to be loving if you were never loved
it’s not hard if you understand your parents are idiots who make bad choices and their not loving you or treating you well is also a product of their bad choices.
and then at some point you will have to take care of them and that will further make you realize how stupid they are/were.