• RBWells@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    I am not sure. Older and experienced, though. A few before my first monogamous run with my ex, that lasted about 20 years, then a few more, then my husband & I did some swinging, and have settled down to just us for about 8 years. But every day, it’s nice.

  • Pyr@lemmy.ca
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    23 hours ago

    Zero

    Just don’t have the drive. Perfectly happy with not bothering with the social dynamics required to flirt / commit etc. I don’t have much need to have a partner either short term or long term.

    No idea if I’m just weird or if it’s a somewhat common thing for some people.

  • Phoenixz@lemmy.ca
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    1 day ago

    Maybe a hundred by now, lost count. My wife has hundreds more than me, and we keep increasing our numbers together, so to speak. God I love my wife and I love my life.

    Wife an I love to regularly go to sex clubs, we have regular partners we play with a lot, and we both give eachother the freedom that if we have an opportunity to have sex while the other isn’t there, take it. We both simply love sex and we’re super open and honest and respectful about our wants, needs, and desires

    • Crackhappy@lemmy.world
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      15 hours ago

      Nice. I’m poly and demi so I can’t do that myself, but my wife has partners over for sex pretty regularly. She keeps thinking that I care, and I keep telling her they could fuck in front of me and it wouldn’t bother me a bit.

  • Hadriscus@jlai.lu
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    These answers are wild, didn’t know lemmings were such dirty dogs (in a good way <3)

    Being the awkward socially disabled neuromasala dude that I am, I count myself lucky to have even met my wife and had the guts to say “hello” when we finally met face to face after 5 months of texting. I absolutely can’t fathom hooking up with someone I barely know, and here y’all are going “oh I lost count”, “low 3 digits”, “are we counting orgies…?”

    • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today
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      21 hours ago

      Yeah, I started to count and just got kinda sad. Remembering the mistakes they were, or that I made. I don’t really care all that much anyways.

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    2 days ago

    More than 20. I disagree that it makes it less meaningful. But I have learned that there are many women who are bad at sex. It’s not just men.

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      22 hours ago

      Agreed. The worst once are those who think sex is a thing only men want and swear they have no need at all and don’t know what they want or like.

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        21 hours ago

        My absolute pet peeve is women who don’t know how to get themselves off. I’m willing to put in the work, but if she doesn’t even know what works for her, then it’s never going to work.

      • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today
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        21 hours ago

        I got one, my second to last partner. I blame “squirting” becoming a thing. She would push so hard to pee to make it seem like she was squirting that she would push me out every minute or so.