• pelespirit@sh.itjust.worksM
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    11 months ago

    This quote by TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com is a good thing to keep in mind. I’m not going to lock it because it genuinely seems to be helping some people. I’m getting reports though, so remember to be excellent to each other please.

    this comment section is a memorial of injured experiences.

    tread carefully.

    Edit: fixed author’s username.

  • StopTouchingYourPhone@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    “Why are men in general so emotionally constipated? omg stop crying like a pussy; we just asked a question!” - the patriarchy, oppressing us all

    • Kecessa@sh.itjust.works
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      11 months ago

      This has nothing to do with men being in position of power, this has everything to do with people having no empathy. If we lived in a matriarchy and people acted the same way they would still be assholes.

      • Binette@lemmy.ml
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        11 months ago

        Patriarchy says that men can’t be “soft” because that’s a womanly trait, and women are inferior.

          • Binette@lemmy.ml
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            11 months ago

            By patriarchy, I mean it in the context of feminism, as in the ideology that attempts to rationalize the idea of that men are better than woman, by using things such as religion, bioessentialism, and more. There are many definitions.

              • Binette@lemmy.ml
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                11 months ago

                Toxic masculinity is an effect of the patriarchy. These are the toxic traits that eminate from masculinity as defined by the patriarchy.

                But hey at this point we’re arguing about semantics. There are traits that men and women are taught as being bad to do as men, even though some of those traits are actually necessary, or just part of someone’s personality.

  • CaptDust@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    I went through the worst depression of my life around 2017, tried to express these feelings to my gf at the time and explain why our romance was failing or why I spent half the day in bed.

    Basically got told “poor you”, everyone has struggles, snap out of it and be a man. That definitely helped, and didn’t push me even deeper into feelings of worthlessness…

    I’m doing ok now, but it was the first time I felt comfortable enough with someone to express those emotions, I was at my wits end. The response was eye opening, never again.

  • Blemmyes@lemm.ee
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    8 months ago

    When I got home after being away for a few months my mom said I got a little fatter. Told her the same thing, and she told me I can’t say such things…

  • A_Porcupine@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I decided to end a relationship and marriage, after being together for 13 years. For the first time in years I put myself first and realised that I needed to be out of the relationship. Coming out of this has been very difficult and I’ve been struggling with my mental health since.

    I started dating again, and have had two horrible experiences where my feelings were just put aside and it really hurt. Both of which ended up with the relationship ending. It’s like I’m not allowed to have feelings or struggle. 😞