Based on your age I’d guess you have different opinions but what’s your thoughts on women in their 40’s? Would you date one? Sleep with one? What attitude do you expect them to have in bed etc.

I’m a 40yo mother of 2 who has recently become single again. I’m hesitant to get back on the dating/hookup scene. But if anyone does want to chat then my messages are open.

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    7 days ago

    (reposting with smut account, not for privacy exactly, I use same username just to separate post history)

    For me it was like being a teenager again but with less frustration because I got more sex. But that sex drive coming out of nowhere was startling - I think maybe your body thinks last chance for offspring, go go go! Like, I run hot usually but early 40s literally felt like 17-20 did.

    It was when I learned I was able to have multiple O and also to get off from PIV.

    And unless you are asking about age gap stuff, aren’t your partners going to be around your age?

    I think you may also be underestimating what a hot commodity you are. I expected to have trouble but when I decided I might try dating more seriously, my handful of casual guys were so interested, I wasn’t because I didn’t like them in that way, but guess even they were fucking around because they hadn’t found someone to settle down with, not because they didn’t want to.

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      7 days ago

      Tbf, I don’t expect sex as much as I did when I was younger but I do expect it to involve the stuff I like more so maybe that comes into play more

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        7 days ago

        Yes. Be very open about what you want, what you like. Older guys slow down while we speed up but they have stamina and the ones who like sex are, in my experience, open minded.

        Mid 50s now and still everyday lady, but it’s not as crazy intense as that 40-45, that was insane, just very strong pleasure. Some of it, as you say, from aligning with my preferences, but I’m quite convinced there is a hormonal boost at that age too.