Hey all, I’m (32M) planning a trip with my wife (30F) next week and I was thinking of bringing something spicy along as a gift.
I’ve been looking into adult games for couples, but I’m a bit on the fence. I’ve read reviews of a specific one and lots of folks seem to enjoy them a lot. However, the more negative reviews focus on some of the questions and assignments and I’m not sure if it’s for us.
For instance, I see there are some knowledge questions that will just test what you know about certain topics. Others have said you can go from 0-100 really quick and that sexual assignments are timed with an hourglass which may make it kinda rushed.
What I’m hoping to accomplish is for us to reconnect on a physical level. Our sex life is okay, but it’s nothing spectacular. I’m interested to see if maybe we can reach a new level through something like this.
As an alternative, I’ve also seen a game where you can do the assignment on the card or drink if you don’t want to do that, that kinda seems more our speed. Yet I am kinda on the fence because I expect the quality of the cards to be pretty low, in the sense that they’ll go for cheap thrills or things that are more awkward than sexy.
It’s not so much that the type of game you’re looking for aren’t or can’t be fun. They can be for sure. You just can’t expect them to give you anything you aren’t already bringing to the table.
You may not mean the same thing it seems like you’re saying, but presenting something like that more casually , as in “hey, I picked these up for a little extra fun along with the trip” rather than “I got this for you/us to shake things up” is likely to be received better. I’m struggling to phrase this in a clear way, so please bear with me. But the idea is that you don’t take a vacation and then indirectly imply that you aren’t satisfied with your sex life.
It’s fine not to be satisfied! It’s great to communicate about it. But waiting until a vacation and dropping that kind of issue on a partner isn’t usually going to lead to something pleasant. It’s already a thorny issue to talk about.
So, if you think a game will be a fun thing to do while in the hotel room or whatever, that’s great. But if you try and treat it as more than that, I’m worried it won’t end well.
Am I making sense? It’s a really minor difference, and it’s hard to express for some reason.
I think what I’m getting at is that a game is just an “icebreaker”. The spiciness has to already be there, or any game will flop. It’s a prop, a tool, not a solution.