Thanks! Intresting read, and I like the style.

In the UK you are free to basically just change your name if you want. In fact, part of getting it “officially” changed (like for a passport) is proving that you’ve been using the new name in daily life for a while. There’s a restriction about not using the new name for fraudulent purpose", so you can’t pretend to be someone else or whatever, but really what you call yourself and what you want others to call you is your business. I was genuinely surprised that most of the rest of the world thinks it’s acceptable to dictate people’s names to them.

Woof. I dread to think that I would remember in such precise detail all the dozens of lemmy posts and comments I’ve read this morning. But it’s quite a thought!

Met my husband on grindr. Have no idea what the notification sound is.

What’s that?

I travel a lot, and spend time in a lot of random places, stay with friends and such like. My job means that I can set my own schedule most of the time, but sometimes I need to respond to something pretty urgently. So, there’s been plenty of times when I’ve been travelling light and suddenly been asked to pull a bunch of data from a spreadsheet and write some quick report on it, so usually I just ask whoever I’m with if I can use their pc for an hour and get it out the way.

It’s certainly possible do it all on a phone, but it’s much quicker and more pleasant to just use a proper keyboard and screen. And there have been times (like after a ill-advised encounter with a fountain in Rome) when my phone is temporarily out of action, so if I need to deal with travel arrangements on a public computer it might involve accessing my emails.

Yeah, I didn’t find it particularly bizarre. Both are very natural ways to process verbal information. Anyone who’s ever tried to do arithmetic in a new language knows that we don’t just abstractly do math, a big part is that we know that seven plus eight is fifteen. That’s why they used to teach multiplication tables by rote. It would be lot more bizarre if an llm had independently devised a reliable mathematical algorithm.

Using email clients is fine on my primary devices, but I often have to use email on other people’s computers. I don’t really want to go back to carrying a usb of portable apps again. And some public computers have usb drive access disabled, understandably.

Anyone got a any opinions (or a link to a review) of the different options? Proton and tuta come up, are there others worth considering?

I understand that I’ll probably need to pay (otherwise I’m the product) and encryption / security is good, but the thing that keeps with Gmail (apart from inertia) is that it feels quick and easy to use. My only real experience of non Gmail sites over the last two decades have been terrible but mandatory work webmail systems that are slow, clunky and look a decade out of date. Or Hotmail, which sucks for a variety of reasons.

Based on when I was young, I basically thought of anything from before I was born as “old”. Not consciously, just that everything from “my” decade seemed modern, and everything else was old.

Even now, movies from 20+ years ago look old, even though I remember them being super new when they came out. The Matrix had aged pretty well, but it defintely looks old. I thought LOTR was timeless, but I rewatched it recently and did start to feel it was showing it’s age (but none the worse for it!).

I’m very close to blocking this account. I think I might have a lot of sympathy for OPs positions, but it’s impossible to know, because they never legitimately make an argument or point. Just pseudoedgy shit like this “showerthought”.

@rainrain@sh.itjust.works, if you actually want people to engage with you (instead of downvoting most of your posts into oblivion) attempt to have a mature conversation. Something like:

“Do you think that society is increasingly supportive of surveillance, and that online spaces have normalised judging other people and reinforcing norms without really understanding them as individuals.”

or "all public discussions must balance freedom of expression and maintaining a meaningful discourse. Do you think the pendulum has swung to far in the direction of censorship? If so, how can we allow more varied perspectives while still maintaining a space where sane people want to spend time? "

When you sound like a dumb edgy teen, or a lazy troll, most people are not going to engage positively. If you actually care about these issues your doing a fuckin awful job of promoting your position. Show that you understand the issue, and the pov of the other side, and then discuss what needs to change. If you’re just a troll, then at least mix it up a little. Severely lacking in teh lulz.

As far as I understand it, most anarchists are opposed to unjust / unjustified / unnecessary hierarchies. There’s many advantages to having managers, team leaders, captains, etc. because it can be helpful to have someone coordinated actions between a larger group.

What anarchists would seek to avoid would be structures where power starts to consolidate around people beyond what’s needed. It’s good to have a leader for quick decisions in the heat of battle, or other emergency, but that person doesn’t need to decide everything outside of battle, because there’s time to have a more democratic or consensual decision making process. They also don’t need to be given more money, or not be accountable and replaceable by their squad.

Yeah, I think the mean prank vibe sucks (obvs, ymmv) but the ‘fake news’ aspect was a positive. Like the original and sadly long lost art of og trolling, the purpose was to remind everyone that you cannot believe everything you read, and you should not suddly react to something just because you read it in a newspaper. If it sounds wild or incendiary, maybe check a couple of other sources before passing it on to friends and looking like a ‘fool’.

Unfortunately, we’ve past the stage where gentle friendly reminders of media literacy are likely to help. Most of us are all too aware we live in an age of misinformation (but don’t agree on what is ‘fake’) so it’s no longer funny.

I don’t understand what I just read, but I get the feeling that’s a good thing.

I think it’s just exhaustion, but I laughed so hard at this that my partner had to come through from the other room to see what was wrong.

I guess I’m just an idiot. Sorry for wasting your time. Don’t be mad, I’ll be good next time.

https://lemmy.today/post/25826594

Appears in the same community for me, 28 posts down (sorted by new). Maybe they’re from different instances and my reader composites the into one? I don’t really understand how lemmy federation works for stuff like that.

Wasn’t this posted 4 days ago in the same community? It’s a great strip (the first in a while where I’ve actually laughed aloud), but that’s quite a short interval.

Nah it’s not. You think that, but you’re wrong actually. Don’t bother checking, it’ll just make you feel even stupider.

I’ve always been attracted to folks with cute & youthful vibe. But when I was a teen that was pretty restricted to other teens, even the ‘young looking’ twenty year olds who were playing high-school students on TV obviously looked older and therefore less attractive to me.

But now I’m in my 40s my range of who looks youthful and hot is much wider. Now I find 20s hotter than teens, 30s can look pretty youthful, and I’m not super attracted to older people, but I find them less gross because I’m used to what older bodies look like (I have one!). And since physical attractiveness is just one part of overall attraction, I’d probably find a cute & 39 person more overall attractive than cute & 19, just because my experience is that most 39 year olds are funnier and more socially skilled than teenagers.

I can’t imagine every finding a 70 year old hotter on a physical level to 20 year old. But I can imagine being so content and in love with my elderly partner that I didn’t care that much.