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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • He wants to send his daughters to school in a place where they’re not only being valued for their wombs. Where they’re looked at as being equal contributors to their field of study. Where they’re provided opportunities the same as every other scholar there, and not assumed to be in college to find a husband.

    And, yes, there is a bit of “if they get into trouble will they have options?” At play I’m sure as well.

    Quit being obtuse.


  • I’m on your side bruh. We’ve owned our home since 2013. It’s appreciated $100K, but we also spent $60K last year alone in windows/siding/getting the whole house replumbed because there ended up being a massive leak in the foundation.

    We had planned for the windows/siding, plumbing was just a nice bonus (it was noticed by our siding contractor actually).

    We’ve also replaced the HVAC, leveled the foundation, replaced the HWH, replaced the roof (that was a lucky insurance thing though due to a massive hail storm), replaced the gutters, and the flooring over the years since buying.

    So…if we ever decide/need to sell, we’ll break even.

    And we didn’t buy a shitty house either. It was built in 1995. It was already 18 years old when we got it, and it’s nearly 30 now. People don’t realize that this shit doesn’t last forever.

    That being said, while I will be Team Renter when we leave this duty station, I’m also in a privileged position being that I’ll have a pension. I completely understand people who don’t have that safety net wanting a little more stability/security.








  • Bruh, I think you’re thinking too deep into this. Some people don’t like the flavor profile of pineapple. It likely started as a teasing joke to their friends when they were young and didn’t know comedy:

    “Eeeewwww pineapple on pizza?! Gross! 😂”

    And then the joke just kinda blew up from there because enough people agreed on it.

    Then you become an adult and realize people just genuinely like different things. I hate pineapple in general, so I don’t get it on my pizza. My husband loves Hawaiian pizza.

    I love anchovies, and he can’t stand them. He says the “juice” affects the rest of the pizza even when I only get it on my half.

    We order 2 different pizzas and everyone is happy.

    I don’t think either of us (or anyone who still pretends to be shocked that pineapple on pizza is a thing) is “gatekeeping pizza” or shaming poor people from tryna eat whatever they have. It is legit on the same level as. “OMG you use APPLE?!?!? I COULD NEVER!”.

    It’s just harmless teasing.






  • That makes me kinda sad actually, but the reality is, you could be right.

    It’s a pretty hard thing to wrestle with the idea of sobriety if someone can’t imagine living their life that way. I get it. I’m a partier at heart who always wants to be out and about with people socializing, and the bar is the easiest place to gather other adults.

    Hopefully if they are someone who wants to cut back, (and can do so safely), they take a peek in and see that it’s not meant to be judgey. If someone checks in for a day or two and not the next, no one is coming after anyone/shaming anyone/questioning anyone. Just come back the next time you don’t wanna drink. It’s that low threat and chill.

    I’m a verbose individual so I write novels, but most folks are legit just like “Not drinking today”, and leave it at that. Whatever works, right?