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Cake day: June 18th, 2023

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  • My understanding is that this only applies if there’s no other way for the neighbor to access their own property. If the property owners can access their property from any other way (for example, from the city streets), there’s no obligation for a landowner who owns the back of the property to allow them to have a second access point.

    Does my backyard neighbor owe me the right to cut across his back yard to access mine? No. I have a driveway that connects to a city street.

    On the chaos angle, I’d imagine that some of those homes have built backyard gates that allow them direct private access to that park. If someone were to buy up that strip they could cut that off and basically extort each homeowner for access. It’s possible that the homeowners could claim some sort of “I’ve used this land for 20 years for access to the park argument,” but that would involve individual claims, expense, and a general PITA legal mess. And depending on the locality, it may require you to prove that you’ve done improvements to the property and a whole host of other PITA things.

    Best case for those homeowners is to pay a couple of thousand each to buy the lot and come to an agreement among themselves on subdivision and/or collective maintenance and access rights.




  • Having guys make me mix tapes.

    Anyway, this one really cute guy at college had an epic cassette collection and he was also artistically talented so he made custom covers/inserts for each one. The original tape is long gone, but somewhere I still have my favorite cassette cover that also includes the hand-printed play list.

    He had other excellent skills, so I eventually married him.


  • Once, and only once, the dream ended with me deciding to enter the mystic portal and me subsequently finding myself standing alone in the hallway of a Hampton Inn in Salt Lake City at 3:00am.

    I was in my jammies. No socks, no room key, no phone. I contemplated many options to get myself out of the situation, but they were all objectively bad. The only high point of the experience is that the breakfast bar hadn’t opened in the lobby, so this remains something shared between only me and the night clerk. Neither of us were happy, but she was wearing more clothing.

    My main takeaways for hotel stays and dreams:
    -jammies must have pockets
    -jammies must have full coverage
    -spare key cards are in the pockets
    -never enter the mystic portal that you summoned

    Mystic portals: never again




  • Baptized Lutheran shortly after birth, but never attended church. It’s a long and vaguely racist family story. Don’t consider myself Christian.

    My in-laws are fundamentalist end times folk, and it took years to try to make sense all of that. I love my husband, but it’s a lot to take in. And my brain naturally tends to try to make sense or analyze things, or figure out what’s motivating people.

    Their older generation are very interested in controlling the people around them and they’re very good at it. I think it’s control and authority at the heart of it, with a helping of genuine trauma that makes death and reward look appealing.

    Actual quote that I’ve heard a few times: “Life is hard, short, and cruel - and then you die!” \ Let me just say that Christmas visits can get really weird.

    On a lighter note, they mailed us a Tribulation Survival Care Package for the 1999 x-mas, ahead of the Y2K impending millennial crisis. That was actually sort of fun, and the shiny space blanket came in handy a few times.


  • Lentil soup. The only fresh ingredient is the greens (and you can freeze them to use later). The finished soup can be frozen.

    2 cups black beluga lentils (or green French lentils), picked over and rinsed
    1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil
    1 large onion, chopped
    1 teaspoon fine-grain sea salt
    1 28- ounce can crushed tomatoes
    2 cups water
    3 cups of a big leafy green (chard, kale, etc), rinsed well, deveined, finely chopped

    1. Boil the lentils for 20 minutes, drain and set aside.
    2. Saute the onion until soft
    3. Add everything else except for the greens; bring to a simmer
    4. Stir in the greens and cook for another couple of minutes
    5. Adjust seasoning