A wedding can cost almost nothing. I found a very small local poor church and offered them $100 bucks to use the place on a Saturday. I baked a big cake, decorated it plain white. I overnight smoked a brisket, made a pan of Mac and cheese.

Got a friend to officiate, and told our friends and families a month in advance. We told everyone it was a potluck. We got $100 plain rings. My grandmother ended up buying some cool flowers for decorations. A friend played some music on the church speakers.

All in, it probably cost us $400 out of pocket, and we got enough cash from attendees to cover that and pay for us to take off work for the week to just hang out and move in together, staycation style. To be fair, I don’t think either of us would have wanted a vacation style honeymoon, we did that kind of thing later. That first week was a lot of figuring out how to live together, so that took time.

So it’s possible to have a big party with friends and family, but spend very little. Just have everyone bring some food and it’ll work out.

Studies show that folks are less likely to have a happy long term marriage the more they spend on a wedding. It’s a pretty clear correlation that expensive weddings typically make folks more unhappy and starts the relationship off with more financial stress. So, don’t feel bad about being frugal! As long as you are both happy, it can be very inexpensive.

I’m pretty sure it’s Shaun of the Dead.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shaun_of_the_Dead

in firefighting, there’s also the Taxpayer https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taxpayer_(building)

Let’s be real, Witcher 3 is just a Gwent launcher.

Also I’ve definitely played more Pazaak than KOTOR.

I mute a ton of communities, and I really like quickly getting to the “end” of All. Then I’ve blocked some other dopamine sites, so I get bored and go play outside 🤣

indeed, and thanks for inspiring me to bake bread tomorrow

didn’t feel like cooking

Ah, me too

made bread

wat

I absolutely adore both of those journals! They are so goooood. Wow. Life goals to be serene enough to fill a cool looking journal like that without getting distracted by squirrels

I’m sure someone will be like “um akchuly” to my explanation. But for me it’s good enough to think if it that way.

I’ve worked in Haskell and F# for a decade, and added some of the original code to the Unison compiler, so I’m at least passingly familiar with the subject. Enough that I’ve had to explain it to new hires a bunch of times to get them to to speed. I find it easier to learn something when I’m given a practical use for it and how it solves that problem.

In practical terms, it’s most commonly a code pattern where any function that interacts with something outside your code (database, filesystem, external API) is “given permission” so all the external interactions are accounted for. You have to pass around something like a permission to allow a function to interact with anything external. Kind of like dependency injection on steroids.

This allows the compiler to enhance the code in ways it otherwise couldn’t. It also prevents many kinds of bugs. However, it’s quite a bit of extra hassle, so it’s frustrating if you’re not used to it. The way you pass around the “permission” is unusual, so it gives a lot of people a headache at first.

This is also used for internal permissions like grabbing the first element of an array. You only get permission if the array has at least one thing inside. If it’s empty, you can’t get permission. As such there’s a lot of code around checking for permission. Languages like Haskell or Unison have a lot of tricks that make it much easier than you’d think, but you still have to account for it. That’s where you see all the weird functions in Haskell like fmap and >>=. It’s helpers to make it easier to pass around those “permissions”.

What’s the point you ask? There’s all kinds of powerful performance optimizations when you know a certain block of code never touches the outside world. You can split execution between different CPU cores, etc. This is still in it’s infancy, but new languages like Unison are breaking incredible ground here. As this is developed further it will be much easier to build software that uses up multiple cores or even multiple machines in distributed swarms without having to build microservice hell. It’ll all just be one program, but it runs across as many machines as needed. Monads are just one of the first features that needed to exist to allow these later features.

There’s a whole math background to it, but I’m much more a “get things done” engineer than a “show me the original math that inspired this language feature” engineer, so I think if it more practically. Same way I explain functions as a way to group a bunch of related actions, and not as an implementation of a lambda calculus. I think people who start talking about burritos and endofunctors are just hazing.

So much gardening!

Here’s my starts!

KATAMARI DAMACYYYYYY BUM BUM BUM BUM

At work Rider, at home Emacs. Also trying out Zed at home.

Final fantasy tactics

Spider? Is there always one?

Did the first half of the trail in '22 and I can concur. I had to stop to make money, but it was so much fun and I miss it every day. I’ll be back out there again soon

Fantastic meme, I’m dying over here

This is fantastic

This sounds amazing

• green peppers
• hummus
• watermelon
• tomato + basil
• mint pesto
• tomato + pesto
• tomato + lettuce
• roasted jalapeno (or other peppers) without seeds
• bread and butter pickles (they’re sweet)
• spicy pickles
• mustard seed spread (not that nuclear yellow crap)
• kimchi
• apple slices
• grilled zucchini
• eggplant and marinara
• apple butter
• any jam (Berry jam too)
• hot pepper relish
• hot sauce
• mashed sweet potato
• chopped candied nuts
• green onions and chives
• a dressing of oil, parsley, mint blended until thick

Holy cow I’m so hungry right now for all of this