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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Nice! I just got it. But I asked >!if it kills humans and it said no. Threw me off.!<

    Mine went:

    ⭐ Quizzle 45 18/20

    !Is it a living thing 👍 Is it a mammal? 👍 Is it normal for a human to touch it? 👎 Do humans (that aren’t specialists) see it ever? 👍 Does it go into cities? 👍 Is it a pest to humans 👎 Is it an herbivore? 👍 Do humans hunt it? 👍 Is it a deer? 👎 Is it a reindeer? 👎 Can you find it in a zoo? 👍 Does it originate from Africa? 👍 Does it kill humans? 👎 Is it an gazelle? 👎 Does it have pointed horns? 👎 Is ita giraffe? 👎 Is it a zebra? 👎 Is it an elephant? ⭐!<






  • despite me explaining it over and over again.

    I keep telling myself it’s useless, they refuse to understand.

    … then I keep trying … T_T … in vain (15+ years of trying)… but then I try again. I just want to feel understood. I long for the family connection they’ve told me is so important my whole life .

    I have bent my words over backwards and reworded them in every way possible. I’ve used articles, videos, and infographics. I have made dozens of analogies and comparisons to their own lives. I have handed them literal scripts of things they could say. I’ve ve tried everything I’ve heard of so far to try and get my family to understand me. It very much feels like I am solidly in a box to them because I see them be understanding to others, to their own family, but never receive the same compassion.

    I resonate with this quote:

    “Once everyone sees you as a villain, that’s what you are. They only see you one way, no matter how hard you try.”- Nimona










  • This is my parents.

    Showing them they defend every single critique… is a critique. I’ve emphasized in so many ways how what they did wasn’t a big deal, how I’m not mad, how it’s ok and it’s a nothing-burger. I’ve given them literal scripts of what they could say. I’ve sent articles, videos, infographics that could help them understand and ways to be able to accept that what they did was a mistake an that it won’t make them a pariah. Telling them dozens of examples of times when I or anyone else has made a mistake and then apologized and fixed it when it was pointed out and everything was fine… nothing.

    They don’t change. Like you said, the critique is the problem, it’s not the problem that’s the problem to them.

    Just own it, make it right, and let some time heal any embarrassment that’s felt.

    Just had to vent.