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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Thanks, I try. I know what it’s like to have subjective symptoms of something larger and medically very real dismissed by others to the point where more permanent damage is done than was ever necessary. While I don’t wish that experience on anyone, it sadly seems almost a necessary experience for many people in order to be able to engage others with compassion.

    I wish there were more empathy, especially in lemmy.world comments. I had hoped better for the fediverse than the current patterns of hostility in social media towards others with different life experiences.


  • You don’t have to apologise, you haven’t done anything wrong. It is true that since people can experience sudden health issues very young, I was one of them. But if your only evidence for diabetes is that you recently ate a common food that happened to be high in sugar, then there’s no sign at all that this is something you are experiencing. You have no symptoms of diabetes, and blood tests as evidence that you don’t have it. But anxiety is a legitimate health condition too.

    You shouldn’t ignore symptoms, which is why you need to look at the symptoms of anxiety that you seem to be experiencing. A panic attack is not something most people regularly experience, and definitely not because they broke their own omad rule with a food that has high sugar levels.

    Please, look into deep breathing techniques fir the panic attacks and doctors who specialize in anxiety near you. I wish you all the luck and best, I know how anxiety can paralyze and negatively affect your life. But the good news is that you aren’t powerless to change it.


  • Friend, I mean this in the nicest possible way, with understanding as someone who has personal experience with both anxiety and insulin issues. I’ve noticed your name on a lot of threads which all demonstrate “catastrophization” and extremely high levels of fear over low risk situations. Levels of fear that are disproportionate. You need to see a doctor about it.

    Anxiety isn’t you being crazy or your fault. It could be something as simple as a chemical imbalance. You don’t need to live like this though, it’s exhausting being this afraid all the time and that energy could be far better spent on things that truly improve your life.

    Please consider it, I know I’m not the first person to tell you this. Acknowledge the pattern, and talk to a professional. It’s hard but very very worth it.


  • Sure. I just think most people can be less hypocritical in calling it out because we’re not the head of state of a country and top representative for a religion with extensive history of the same acts. I don’t have the power to direct an entire economy’s resources or have the adoring audience of millions globally, but he does. So he ought to be reminded of his own abilities, and the rest of us shouldn’t just let the Vatican forget its own self-declared immoral actions.

    He can make geopolitical statements and direct his flock as he pleases, and I will continue to call him out on his bullshit. My position on the core truth of his statement does not alter my position on calling out hypocrisy.


  • So was harboring the head of the fascist Ustaše in the Vatican and smuggling him out to Argentina using the ratlines after WW2 - and keeping the loot the Ustaše brought with them. So were the Catholic forced conversions conducted by members of the Franciscan Order during WW2. The Pope can hand back the stolen treasure to the owners and release the documents from that period if he wants to make a believable denouncement of religiously motivated atrocities.

    Until the Vatican is willing to address its own genocide and make amends, this is just hypocritical hot air and puffery.


  • While I’m glad the Australian Government had decided to take at least a mild finger-wagging stance of disapproval, blaming this on “settlers” trivialises the situation in an unacceptable way. The Israeli state is perfectly able to keep Jewish extremists from invading the space and forcibly displacing Palestinians, but not only does the state choose not to, but they’re actively participating in the genocide. They’re not “settlers”, the land has been “settled” for longer than written human history. IDF snipers are not some sort of quaint uncoordinated pioneers discovering new land.

    I wasn’t previously against Israel’s “right to exist”, but the atrocities the Israeli goveenment are perpetuating are making me take a far stronger stance against ethnostates of all varieties.




  • Climate change was still a “this will be a big problem and we need to do something about it sooner rather than later” issue instead of “actively experiencing and watching the damage and misery on a near daily basis and knowing it will be getting much much worse” reality.

    No amount of Captain Planet telling me to separate my recyclables is going to fix this shit.


  • Copying and pasting my answer from the same question just 2 weeks ago:

    How do you know they all weren’t wearing it?

    There are a lot of people who do wear it but continue to smell because of underlying medical conditions. For example, fruity smelling body odor can indicate diabetes. People with a rare genetic condition called Trimethylaminuria can smell strongly of fish. It all depends on what bacteria (which outnumber your own body cells by 10 to 1 even though they are only 2% of your body mass) and what balance of enzymes you may or may not have.

    Reducing perspiration can and often does help, concealing the odor with different ones can help, but sometimes people’s bodies just aren’t right for whatever mass produced product they have bought. Sometimes that can be fixed with medication. Sometimes it can’t.

    https://kbin.social/m/asklemmy@lemmy.ml/t/638513/-/comment/3647566


  • One time I went to this Afghani (Hazaragi) restaurant with friends in another city. Most of us were vegetarian, and they had heard this place had good vegetarian food, so that’s what we ordered.

    There was this simple garlic dal that I still think about. It was so perfectly flavored and balanced and seasoned, with a depth of flavour that surprised the hell out of me. I suspect the vegetable stock they used was cooked long and slow for a very long time, but I’ll never know its secrets for sure.

    Everything else we ordered was tasty enough, but this was next level. And it wasn’t just me, everyone at the table agreed. And it was just a bowl of lentils! It’s not like we hadn’t had dal before.

    They’ve since changed chefs/owners. The closest sounding recipe I’ve found is this one from a thankfully decent UX site (ignore the coconut milk in the url, there is none) but using stock instead of water and probably much less ginger. I still mean to try this recipe but with more fried garlic… perhaps I have underestimated the masala.



  • Well, we’re talking about home ownership here. If you’re renting then…

    Yes, even as a mere renter myself I am extremely familiar with the workings of home ownership in my area and the legal rights and responsibilities of each. I just didn’t feel it necessary to elaborate on how I know. It didn’t seem relevant.

    I am stating a fact, that in the US, HOAs started as way to enforce gentrification. There were actual racist deed agreements and binding covenants. This isn’t an opinion or speculation.

    Yes, I am aware many home owners organisations were begun in the US out of xenophobic backlash after slavery was partially abolished. However, the concept of groups of owner-occupiers and investors/developers governing their community is not a uniquely US thing, and likely existed in practise before the term “Home Owners Association” was coined. I could have been clearer that i was speaking more globally and generally, but this is why I used the non-US-specific term “local governing bodies” which could cover everything from favella gang leaders to democraticly dlrected government councils.

    OK but that’s not everyone’s opinion. My neighbors and I get along fine without an HOA,

    Yes, most owner occupiers where I live also luve without being under an HOA, but they are still also subject to the laws and regulations of their local councils, state governments, federal governments, strata bodies and everyone else in between. Renters like me, or owner occupiers too are able to seek legal recourse through those courts. Depending on the value in dispute, they are able to do it without lawyers. In other communities, such as small towns where the sheriff is the mayor and the local judge was elected with no legal experience… this would be a much bigger problem for the person with little cash.

    I wouldn’t even want to live again in a building where the majority vote on repairs was held by non-occupying investors. It leads to stupid amounts of decay.


  • I rent in a medium-high-density non-US housing complex. It’s obviously necessary after you live like this for a few years that there needs to be an organisational body to deal with building and land issues, especially when there are hundreds of people who occupy a shared structure that needs to be maintained and repaired. For example, if the water goes out for me, it could also be out for hundreds of other people, which makes it a more expensive and higher stakes problem than a single detached house with one family, and more than one person will need to make the decision on how it is repaired and by whom.

    Local governing bodies are not necessarily based in racism or hyper-control motives either, even if American (and other country) housing organisations regularly use it for those purposes even today. These organisations are borne from the complex needs of living in a peaceful community of different people with different desires and needs.

    But experience has also told me that this works better when the overarching legal systems are more accessible and corruption-resistant. The biggest problem is that it is very difficult to evaluate what patch of land (or walls and floor) has the best longitude and latitude to provide a decent probability of not being exploited for someone else’s gain or suffering from someone else’s bad decisions. It’s a constant global issue, and the consistent theme is that most places favour the wealthiest human in housing or other legal disputes.



  • I used to see stories in the legaladvice subreddit regularly about Housing Owner Associations putting legitimate liens on properties for not following the rules. Even when the rules were as ridiculous as “air-conditioning unit can’t be visible from the street” or “only these specific plants can be grown and your lawn cannot exceed a few inches in height and must always be green” or “internal curtains must be pink or white”.

    For a culture that prides itself on its freedoms, the miniature authoritarian regimes that HOAs embody are a great example of the evidence not matching the story.