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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • Things that might be helpful:

    • how long y’all been together?
    • what’s her relationship to her family?
    • how many people and how big is the place?
    • (when) do you intend to get your own place?
    • what country and would you be able to afford your own place soon?
    • are there specific reasons you would move in other than “she lives there and we wanna be together”?
    • how far is the move from your place currently?
    • can you find me an image of a kitten? I love those.

    Also please don’t take Internet advice at face value on such delicate topics, we can show you what to keep in mind, but you are best suited to decide and I’m sure whatever you will decide, you’ll find your way :)



  • why are (some) extroverts like this?

    I sometimes do this too even though I’m very introverted. I do this because I want to feel useful with the experience I gained and it just feels like a waste sitting on some knowledge and not being able to do something with it.

    It’s a really cool thing if you can help someone. And some people have such a need for this, either they completely forget they were very explicitly not asked, and some will ignore it, just in the hopes they get to contribute.

    Funnily enough I get to see both sides, because I also sometimes get an answer from multiple people, so I’ve learned how to handle it to some degree.

    The best thing to do is not to tell them to shut up, but to acknowledge it and then explicitly say “also wanna hear from [experienced] person as well on this though.”



  • Person with autism here: the truth is even if some people on the spectrum can’t use the bathroom by themselves, it’s either a comorbidity linked to a different disability or it’s obscenely rare.

    The way autism expresses in different people is very complex and this is this is one of the worst mischaracterizations I’ve ever seen.

    That guy shouldn’t be able to touch the US health department or any other health organization for that matter with a ten foot pole. He is explicitly and intentionally spreading lies on a variety of different topics and should have no authority.




  • I’m wondering if your social group has something to do with it. Usually social circles have very distinct habits and patterns of behavior so this might be related.

    That said, if not, it could be more of a perception but it could also be real.

    And then the question is what can you change, and what should you change.

    I have autism, so I empathize with the inability to see yourself from the outside and to understand how much and in what ways behaviors affect others - but I’ve also learned that if you have friends, you can always ask them about it, and if they’re good friends, they will give you useful pointers. More useful than random people on the Internet anyway.

    So either it is they way you act or perceive things, which is stuff you can work on, or it’s a pattern of a specific friends circle, and that means maybe you just express yourself very differently and therefore it’s hard to relate to them.

    Anyway I wish you good look on figuring it all out and as someone who is constantly trying to improve, I’m sure if you take a hold of the root cause, you’ll quickly adapt :)








  • It sounds like you might have missed some parts of my comment.

    Wages: yes you can claim everything is affected by the relatively low wages. That includes video games. But if you need to save up because of that, video games will be one of the things you need to skip, because it is a luxury good. And that’s sad. That’s why this sticks out.

    Price dip from 1980: I made a case for why the costs for video games in 1980 were very high, and probably for a variety of reasons. now quite a lot of those reasons disappeared over the next centuries. So the price increases do not correlate with that, and that’s why using the prices from 1980 might not be a great comparison.

    Complaining about a 20$ increase: because everyone has the absolute right to complain about everything. We are the consumer - judging prices is one of our ultimate rights, because we need to make sure it’s worth buying something. Now I don’t think it’s entitlement given all the things I listed before, but if you wanna call it that, go ahead, although I think trying to understand my perspective would decrease your presumptions about people like me.

    We have it objectively better by every metric: and this is precisely where I disagree, respectfully. You do not have to understand why, but I feel like painting crowds of people in broad strokes is always unhelpful for perspective and learning. But I guess in the end you do you, I can’t force people to understand someone else and why they’re saying what they’re saying.


  • I mean tbf complaining that less people can afford it now because prices have increased but wages haven’t is fair. Everything needs to be looked at relative to all the other values. If you wanna go even more in depth I guess you would need to add popularity of games, reputation of a brand or game series, value of the currency, and other factors.

    I generally agree with you that prices for video games haven’t kept up that well, although I would also point out that due to multiple factors anchoring the video game price at 1980 might not be the best if you want a fitting picture. Games were much more rare baack then, the market was smaller, small production volume meant physical costs per unit increase, there’s things like way higher shipping costs to think about because globalization is a more modern phenomenon and a lot more stuff. Imo using the 2000s as an anchor to extrapolate from would be more fitting, as the market was well established at that point and thus prices would appear more stable.

    I’m not doing that because I am literally a little gremlin who can’t be arsed to put the time in rn but these are my two cents of criticism against your methodology.