I was going to lead with “Don’t assume that other people have it right and you don’t” combined with “Most people are sleepwalking through life, so be careful about asking random strangers for advice”; however, I like this list and hope more people will upvote it.

Thomas Dolby, “I love you, goodbye”.

New Dutch programming language just dropped.

Some contestants phrase every question with “What is…?” Matt Amodio is well known for doing this. He won many times.

Ultra Edit 32 was excellent.

It made sense to scare people into being reasonable. That was the Old Testament.

Once they acted less stupidly, it became safer to let people be as they are. That was the New Testament.

Options have value.

Options expire.

🤷

Burnout has lasting effects. The only effective antidote is rest until rest actually leads to recovery once again. I have struggled with actually resting, as opposed to merely pausing, but feeling anxious about the next batch of commitments to try to live up to.

The quality of your rest is likely to determine what happens next. Rest the best and deepest you can.

Peace.

Yes. I focus on making direct requests and on trying to understand the unmet needs of others. A large part of what I do is train people to believe that they can say “no” to me without arbitrary repercussions.

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I assumed Python was unpopular in England, because programmers couldn’t spell __init__(). 🤷

Weird? No. I might be missing something, but I probably won’t know what I’m missing, except in the abstract.

Also: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Le_Ton_beau_de_Marot

Should be “wið”, no? 😉

“You can’t control X” is not the same as “X is your fault”. Earthquakes, for example, aren’t your fault. I notice that people infer blame quite easily in response to statements such as these. I know I had to train myself out of this and in moments of stress, I fall back into it.

“Only you can choose to ignore what they say about you” is not the same as “It’s your fault that you care about what they say about you”. It’s true it’s up to you to learn how to ignore others’ opinions of you, but that doesn’t mean you deserve blame for the patterns in your mind. Maybe you are and maybe you aren’t. Maybe it doesn’t matter. Maybe it only matters what you learn to do from here, which probably depends on finding adequate support. I hope you find it.

Your thoughts and feelings are not wrong by definition. Unhelpful, maybe. An obstacle, perhaps. But not wrong. They can’t be wrong. They just are. They simply exist. The question becomes how to find the tools to make sense of your thoughts and feelings, as well as to let go of the unhelpful and pick up the helpful. That’s what I’d expect from your therapist: to help you do that. I’m sorry that you haven’t had that experience.

“You just have to deal with it” seems utterly unhelpful to me, but “You’re ultimately the one who needs to find ways to deal with it” seems undeniably true to me. It’s not easy, but nobody else can do it for you. And you’re ultimately responsible for the determination it might take to get there.

Those are my thoughts. I hope you find something helpful in there somewhere. Best wishes. Peace.

I teach programmers to say “Oops” when they make a mistake, rather than apologize. It’s epidemic.

You’ve already had several good suggestions here.

I learned that when rest no longer leads to recovery, that is burnout and maybe even depression. Pay attention to this feeling and take it seriously. Good luck.

If you’re thinking about what you could be doing, you might have some unhelpful conditioning related to “being productive” and other such myths of how to live “correctly”. You might be able to think your way out of that way of being and you might need to talk to someone to do this, such as a therapist.

If you’re worried about forgetting something that you need to do later or about some deadline sneaking up on you, then writing things down and setting reminders could help. I did a lot of this and it trained me to literally forget things that I didn’t yet need to start working on without risking missing deadlines. I found it very freeing. Something like that might help you.

I hope you find some peace from something in these replies.

It’s much more likely that we sound like children than we sound like an LLM.

Low feels more numb than dark. More like being on pause than everything is terrible. More “I’ll try again later” and less “this is never going to get better”.

I don’t remember the transition. I can’t tell you how long it took. I was only on antidepressant medication for about 18 months.

Peace.

What if role is FILE_NOT_FOUND?!

I use Spectacle for taking screenshots and I’ve enjoyed using it for several years. After that, I’d crop it in any image editor that has a freehand selector tool. Gimp would be the first thing I tried, but I’m sure you could find something easily enough.