I accept that explanation. I was worried that the use of specific terms might offend in some cases, like referring to anal strapon use among lesbians as “pegging”, since the power inversion does not apply there, or at worst implying that non-heterosexuality is a situational substitute for “real” traditional heterosexual sex, which was the toxic discourse in my high school.

That’s a very verbose assertion of an opinion that a sex term has a specific meaning that is unchanged through time. In my opinion, the only gendered language in the OP was the term “guys”, which I loosely interpreted as an implicitly misogynist equivalent to the word “folks”.

If someone (of any gender) without an organic penis anally tops someone else (of any gender), I might use the term “pegging” because of my pre-transition male biases that I am still working to unlearn, where someone with a formal feminist education (or just more experience in the queer community) might use another term without the historical baggage of gender. I only see “pegging” as a problematic term outside of strict heterosexuality if people understand it the way you understand it, but if others see it as ungendered, they have no need for another term. It’s like how I identified as bisexual before a partner educated me on the spectrum of gender, so now I identify as pansexual.

Thank you for the intellectual exercise.

I like organic dicks in my ass. I’ve never been pegged, but I’d hope it’s the kind with a bulb, otherwise I’d worry the top would be too rough due to a lack of sensation. 😅

EDIT: Since the issue of gender was raised, I identify as they/them.

Pan queer here. To answer your question, a vagina is like a really loose ass that doesn’t need much cleaning. You might feel at home if you’re comfortable topping, or you might be disturbed by the experience.

Text-based roleplay? There are forum sites for that. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you’re a fast writer and can deal with a lot of vanilla expectations. It’s mostly cis women on those forums, some of them have an unhealthy obsession with violence, and few to none are into the kind of kink one expects in less “safe” spaces.

I’m stuck in this mess too but there are more appropriate boards for discussing it. I recommend having these discussions on a board that is interest or identity-based. This board is for meta-discussion of the site and finding related resources.

No, and I was shy about nudity for the first 25 years of my life and would have dropped the class had this been a requirement.

Clear them out and take a nap

One or two. I thought about this as a metric in my early 20s, but now I prefer to meet in a public place for lunch or coffee or something, then sex can follow or not. It’s a routine that affords more safety than a random hookup at a bar or an app or something.

My breasts are too small for a proper titfuck, but it’s less impersonal than a handjob. It depends on how much you care for someone. Is it a quickie that you just want to end, or is it love?

I’m circumcised and I’ve never had the issue you describe, but I’m also on HRT and don’t get spontaneous erections anyways. The thing about anal as compared to vaginal is that the anatomy is very different and requires more force. Your issue will have more to do with tightness than angle, though sideways and one-leg-up are generally easier positions. Make sure to buy lube, preferably water-based.

Tried both, failed at both. Guys have hairier asses, but the biggest challenge in general is the amount of force required to penetrate. I generally don’t top.

As a non-passing transfem with some kink experience via a few long-term partners (quality over quantity) I’m not offended by the existence of chasers or being fetishized in an authentic way. You seem like a decent person, as long as you aren’t one of those who pretend to be straight. You are correct in assuming that transfems usually don’t top, and in some cases the hormones make it difficult or impossible.

I guess my question is why you need transfem-specific dating advice when there’s a good number of us in the gay community and bouncing around different apps.

I like small tgirl dicks, but judging by your username that isn’t what’s on offer. As for what’s missing, most dick pics are missing a view of the body. The penis alone is not interesting unless it’s attached to an interesting person.

Futanari catgirl

Thanks! There’s some hot stuff on there (image loading issue aside)

We’ve been through a lot, and I’ve come to realize that this isn’t going to work long-term. I hope we can still be friends.

Yeah, I’d like to see some twink subs with bigger guy doms. I’m really into twinks.

It’s offering companionship, which non-interactive porn can’t offer. Find a gay man who’s always horny and you’ll get the same thing with the added benefit of physical contact.

Not to diminish the fact that BDSM is queer in general, I think it’s possible to erase communities through ignorance. Everyone defaults to cis-het white, generally maledom stuff, which makes a lot of people lose interest. You can say you’re gender-blind, but I’ve only seen cis-looking women as the focus on that board, and I don’t find that terribly stimulating.