This is accidentally a very Buddhist take - the sense of a separate self is illusory and based on karmic impressions, i.e. trauma, and the mistakes that living in our trauma patterns keep perpetuating, i.e. samsara.
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3·2 months agoThis is absolutely heartbreaking. I can’t imagine the psychological toll. I hope that in a few decades we will collectively look back on this time as an unfortunate side effect of prioritizing only material progress while ignoring inner psychological and emotional reality and will have learned to balance work with family, community, leisure, education, art, and everything else that makes life good and meaningful.
No POSIX compliance no award!
2·3 months agoAre there any better options for keyboard trackpad combo than the Logitech k400 yet?
2·3 months agoIt was on my wishlist already too, but I do remember seeing it a while back and being intrigued.
In what way do the stupid take care of the good?
Agreed, excellent article and understanding this should be required education… but wtf is this pie chart?
Nice grill! Is that a kamado? What kind?
I played Medievia for most of the 90s. I had so much fun! It’s wild the breadth and depth that MUDs have thanks to not having graphics. MMOs can’t hold a candle to them, It’s like writing a novel vs producing a movie.
2·5 months agoHappy my recent upgrade has the yellow backlight feature for just this reason
1·6 months agoI’ve had it for years, since it came out, and only managed to sink a few hours into it. I recently fired it up again, thanks for the recommendation!
Love to hear it! I read and reread Feist’s whole series as a kid, I remember always being so excited when a new book came out. I cut my teeth learning to read novels on Magician in 3rd grade!
You’ll be interested to learn that Feist didn’t write anything for the game, he just licensed the world and the characters. Neal Hallford wrote the story and dialogue which were brilliant, and Feist later adapted the story into a novel.
I just replayed QfG 1-3 last week on a family vacation and the magic is still strong. Something about these games ignite mythic perspectives in me that nothing else seems to.
Quest for Glory series! Betrayal at Krondor
If you eat this daily it’s definitely worth it! Just soak the beans overnight, drain them, and rinse them daily until they’re the right size, 5-6 days.
Loved Shining Force since I watched my brother and his friend play all night after renting it from Blockbuster in the early 90s! I’ve played 1 and 2 a few times over the years and always had fun.
I read and really enjoyed this series recently. I loved the interactions between humans and Neanderthals and how the author described their cultures and views from the inside. Of course it’s very speculative but beautifully woven, fascinating and engaging.
Everything looks cool with confidence!
9·9 months agoLoved “A Short Hike” and every kid I’ve shown it to got hooked!
Crucial Conversations — Summary
A crucial conversation is any conversation where
The book teaches how to stay effective, curious, and collaborative even when it’s hard.
Before opening your mouth, check your intent.
Ask yourself three grounding questions:
This interrupts reactive fight-flight patterns and restores internal alignment.
Crucial conversations become unsafe when people sense judgment, coercion, or disrespect.
Detect early signs:
The moment safety drops, the conversation stops mattering—only self-protection matters.
You restore safety through two tools:
i. Mutual Purpose — “We’re in this together.”
Show that you care about their goals and outcomes.
If purposes differ, create a shared purpose by inventing options acceptable to both sides.
ii. Mutual Respect — “I value you as a person.”
When respect feels threatened, no conversation works.
Apologize sincerely if needed. Use contrast statements:
Your emotions come from the story you tell about what’s happening—not the event itself.
Event → Interpretation (“story”) → Emotion → Reaction
People naturally fill gaps with:
The fix:
The book’s core communication tool:
This expresses truth while reinforcing safety.
Use curiosity to draw out their meaning-making process.
Tools:
AMPP Skills
ABC of listening: agree where you can, build on shared areas, compare differences respectfully.
Goal: understand them well enough that they feel seen.
Crucial conversations should end with clear commitment.
Questions to answer:
Four decision models:
Pick based on urgency, stakes, and involvement.
Dialogue succeeds when people feel safe enough to express their full truth—and curious enough to hear others.
Crucial Conversations is fundamentally a blueprint for replacing defensiveness with inquiry, fear with safety, and positional fighting with collaborative problem-solving.