Very sorry for your loss, friend. Agreed with the other reply that said there is no wrong way to feel. Grief and loss are complicated things. I lost my grandma a couple years ago and I remember feeling nothing when I first heard the news and then while watching TV with my wife I suddenly broke down crying out of nowhere. Ten minutes later I was cracking up on the phone with my mom reminiscing. It’s a complex and messy process, but it’s worth letting yourself feel everything through it.

My sincerest condolences!

Even more disturbing is that if we have evidence of one Signal chat that must mean they regularly use non-official communications channels to discuss things like this. That means no formal record retention, no safeguards against export control and protection of classified information, and no pathway for transparency. These communications are entirely FOIA proof such that the American people have no way to even attempt to obtain information through legal channels from government officials.

Just a friendly reminder too that a 2015 report from the ATF found that 71% of the guns the cartels use are bought in the United States and carried south across the border. The United States is just as complicit in the rise of cartel related crime as the cartels themselves!

!wa for Wolfram Alpha and !aw for the Arch Wiki as well!

My wife and I had the realization this past week that we have both been in a near constant state of seething anger since the election. We decided that we both need to pump the brakes on reading news for our collective mental health. That doesn’t mean we’re ignoring things, but it does mean we plan to remind each other to take a breather when we’re caught doomscrolling.

We cannot afford to become complacent or ignore things, but we have found that redirecting our anger to productive activities has been helpful. Every time we read a negative article it is a reminder to reach out to our friends who are parts of communities which are currently under attack to see what we can do to help or offer companionship. We also regularly look for local opportunities to connect with marginalized communities in our area, volunteer, and generally make a show of our support.

Gilmore Girls. I know the show has some problematic humor but it’s one of the best shows I’ve ever watched as far as characterization is concerned. The writing and the characters have a way of sucking you into the story that I haven’t really found in any other show.