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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • Hopefully you and the friend will get better.

    As hard as it is in a situation like this, it is really important to understand own boundaries and if this was too much for you, respect your boundaries — in the beginning you might feel really torn, like you are betraying a friendship or leaving someone in need alone.

    Additionally, your reaction might send a signal for them to seek help, it doesn’t have to but it just might be enough of a nudge in situation like this.

    Bottom line is, if this decision was made from the position of respecting your current boundaries then whatever comes next is the best possible scenario in the long run.

    Stay safe.










  • That’s why falling in love is a very slippery road — in the emotional sense. If you fall, you will finally hit something, that’s how it works in nature.

    Loving someone or building a solid relation based on love with someone is so much harder and not so automatic as falling, it requires committing and communicating — learning a difference is a key to not fall but to be more aware of the process and ones deeper emotions, especially someone else’s.

    My guess is that’s why it is easier for so many people to love animals because they don’t fall in love with them, they just feel the love and act accordingly.

    — Obviously, all this is a giant oversimplification because this is just a simple comment on the internet, not reality.


  • somnuz@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlMaking friends as an adult
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    2 years ago

    Obviously, I know absolutely nothing about you, and if your standards are some over the top expectations or demands then you should stop calling them standards… BUT if your standards are healthy boundaries and some basic safety precautions then by any means try not to mess with them even when the situation is rough — this can burn for a looong time…



  • somnuz@lemm.eetoMemes@lemmy.mlChrome Rocks /s
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    Well, most of the websites now are mostly bloatsites with so much useless effects and/or scripts… 8 gigs of ram is not a problem here, current standards or maybe let’s call them fancy e-fashions are.

    Few days ago I stumbled upon a single page website that was loading like 12 fonts and I don’t remember how many effects libraries just to use some fading and one font in two weights.




  • I dunno… why can’t Lemmy just be its own thing tho? I might’ve been using Reddit wrong or something but Lemmy feels so much better from the start for me.

    At least if there is an interesting topic or a question I don’t have to scroll thru the same jokes or worse — joke trains, yeah sure, the beans happened, maybe I am getting too old to fully connect with the joke, whatever, but at least it is kinda self-contained, my wild guess would be if beans happened on Reddit, all the comments would be BEANS! for a month everywhere…

    From a time perspective — I am really appreciating some amazing posts on Reddit with great histories and comments that I was reading for hours, some great AMAs or even the funny content if it was fresh.

    With all this said, overall Reddit was mostly a really specific shit hole for me, yes, shit hole where occasional diamonds occurred but still. I can’t wrap my head around how imaginary internet points can distort even the most basic interactions.