Lemmy offers messages as far as I know, just click on the profile, the option was there for me. However thank you for your opinion, because I will put an extra advice into the community’s info that: they can use lemmy DM’s to message each others or the poster may provide extra options to be messaged at, like email or matrix etc. Thank you! ☺
Try to play with the thought, that many people are feeling like this here, it might give you encouragement to reach out. Don’t think you don’t deserve the support of a friend just because you think you are different. Passion (interest) in each other lets you to experience friendship even if your tastes are totally different. Friendship is based on love, not interest, those built on interest and ‘trading’ (you give me this, I give you that in exchange), understandably are friendships that is quite likely will not be long lasting. Also, in my opinion you don’t have to make anything work, nor do you have to make a friendship work. Of course build the ship together, but if you feel the need to keep a friendship alive, then maybe let each other go and look for a new sailor. :)
Whoever would consider creating such a platform, I would like to let you know, that here is yet another person supporting the idea. :)