My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
I don’t get how nothing changed for you? Maybe you’re next if a hot new son comes along? Anyway, ofc she shouldn’t demand that but it’s totally understandable when you’ve been betrayed by your family. Really, go to her. She doesn’t choose, but your dad is a major asshole that isn’t honest with his closest people. It’s not good for you to absorb that kind of life. It will punish you your entire life. Yeah. I’m giving you my opinion. You don’t need to do what your mom says, but if you don’t take care of her now she could be ruined forever. I don’t know you, but I know that you deserve a better role model than someone that isn’t man enough to admit he likes a younger girl. Also probably get you therapy. It is more important now than ever probably, and make sure your mom does too if she doesn’t flip back. I’m not saying don’t talk to dad anymore, but jesus christ he’s got a new kid to be with, and you just got a job. I don’t know your age but not stepping up now could be much more devastating than maturing too early. Just trust. People with no respect for themselves will never respect you and vice versa. You make tour own reality.