My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
Your mom shouldn’t use you in the fight with your dad. This is something which happens often, but ends up traumatizing the child.
No matter the fight they have, they should always be there for you as a parent and leave their stuff between them. You are not a pawn, you’re their kid. She’s your mother, he’s your father and nothing is going to change that.