So many don’t understand this. When someone is depressed in such a way, it isn’t uncommon to have already reached a point where you’re just going through the motions of living life. It isn’t that you don’t want help or don’t want to be better, but that so much has already been attempted and very little, if any of it, actually contributed to a lasting positive mental state. This is where serotonin and dopamine deficiencies come in, where people who are depressed to have the inability to ground themselves like the average person can.
At this stage, the help that is needed is specialized and intensive, and few people understand how to actually help and fewer still recognize if they have the resources to actually help.
There’s also the access to help which if there is a lot of intense and specialized help needed, tends to come at a cost in both monetary and time aspects. Some people that need the most help can be the least likely to be able to afford those therapy sessions (even at a sliding scale) and in my experience looking for help, the availability of those specialists are limited to like a 10-5, weekday schedule too.
I’m not trying to excuse the attitude, but the serious, intensive help isn’t quite something you can get by from using a “budget”-oriented therapy service or from student therapists, and depending on the severity of the problem, some may require a minimum of weekly visits or visiting multiple times a week.
In my case of finding a trauma-informed therapist, it would cost me well over $1k/month to deal with my issues. So I just keep my mouth shut and try to leave out talking about my problems to my friends until I can afford to start my sessions.
So many don’t understand this. When someone is depressed in such a way, it isn’t uncommon to have already reached a point where you’re just going through the motions of living life. It isn’t that you don’t want help or don’t want to be better, but that so much has already been attempted and very little, if any of it, actually contributed to a lasting positive mental state. This is where serotonin and dopamine deficiencies come in, where people who are depressed to have the inability to ground themselves like the average person can.
At this stage, the help that is needed is specialized and intensive, and few people understand how to actually help and fewer still recognize if they have the resources to actually help.
There’s also the access to help which if there is a lot of intense and specialized help needed, tends to come at a cost in both monetary and time aspects. Some people that need the most help can be the least likely to be able to afford those therapy sessions (even at a sliding scale) and in my experience looking for help, the availability of those specialists are limited to like a 10-5, weekday schedule too.
I’m not trying to excuse the attitude, but the serious, intensive help isn’t quite something you can get by from using a “budget”-oriented therapy service or from student therapists, and depending on the severity of the problem, some may require a minimum of weekly visits or visiting multiple times a week.
In my case of finding a trauma-informed therapist, it would cost me well over $1k/month to deal with my issues. So I just keep my mouth shut and try to leave out talking about my problems to my friends until I can afford to start my sessions.