My child is being punched at kindergarten by a girl who also continually does things to him. For example, putting soap on his chair, messing with his outdoor clothes, etc.

The teachers know and have talked to the girl’s parents, but the behavior continues. My child is scared to go and cries about it sometimes. I’m not entirely sure how to handle it, because that’s the teachers job and I’m not there to help or see it.

Eventually, I’m considering involving the police, but that seems pretty last resort.

Any suggestions?

Edit

The director and teachers are all aware of the issues

    • ThisUsernameKillsFascists@piefed.socialEnglish
      3·
      9 days ago

      If they were 12 you might have a point, but at 5 kids are still malleable enough that teaching nonviolent conflict resolution is realistic and can have lasting impact

      • Triumph@fedia.io
        31·
        9 days ago

        I previously mentioned that that’s not working. Or if it’s “going to take time” , the kid is getting punched on the regular until then.

        Yes, kids should learn to seek nonviolent solutions. They should also be taught not to allow other people to abuse them. Stopping or preventing such abuse may well require the judicious use of violence or the legitimate threat of it.

        • ThisUsernameKillsFascists@piefed.socialEnglish
          2·
          8 days ago

          I agree with your overall point about bullying, but you have to consider childhood development and the differing reasons that children at different ages resort to violence in the first place. At 5, the cause of the violence is more likely to be emotional deregulation and lack of impulse control - that doesn’t mean it should be allowed to continue, but there are realistic options for how to shut it down that don’t exist in the same way as with older kids.

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
      75·
      10 days ago

      The world where girls and women are raped at extremely high rates by men? By violent men? By men that are taught that they can restore their pride and self-esteem by enacting violence on others?

      Yeah, come live in this world with me.

          • Triumph@fedia.io
            52·
            10 days ago

            Okay so let’s imagine it was a four year old girl getting bullied by a five year old boy. My position would be the same.

              • Triumph@fedia.io
                61·
                10 days ago

                Again, in an ideal world you would be right. But that’s not the world we live in. Yes, seek nonviolent solutions first. But pacifism only tells the bad people that they can abuse you with impunity.

                Which is exactly what’s happening.