• bizarroland@fedia.io
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    22 days ago

    I would say the hardest thing I’ve ever done sexually is communicate with my partner about the things that I want.

    I know that’s not like a cool sexy talk thing to get people excited to read.

    But it is so hard to look your girlfriend in the eye and tell her that you want to titty fuck her or tie her up or whatever your kink is.

    Putting yourself out there for judgment and possible ridicule is difficult.

    • Maalus@lemmy.world
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      21 days ago

      https://mojoupgrade.com/

      One of the first things I do with a potential partner. Not many people know about the site / that something like this exists. But I have had success asking multiple people to go through it when we were just at the flirting stage.

      Basically it has a list of sexual acts and you check off what you like, what you could do for the partner if they want you to, and what’s off limits. It only shows you things you both like / would maybe do, so no judgement. You can hotseat it on a single PC, or my preffered method, send them a link, they fill it out at the same time as you and you only get results when both of you finish.

      Obviously it requires someone you trust completely so they don’t fill out something “just to check if you are a freak”, but that is something that breaks trust, so you probably wouldn’t want to have sex with someone untrustworthy.