I guess it depends on why you want to do it, doesn’t it? Do you want to do it because you are questioning your attractions and potential sexuality? Yeah that’s probably bi-curious. Do you just have some sort of intellectual curiosity? A desire to understand the appeal rather than explore your personal interest? Is somebody offering you $20 to do it? For any of those, I think it’s less black-and-white.
But what I think most and most importantly, is those labels benefit us when we wish to group, find commonality, or define preferences, so they have merit, but they do us disservice when they limit us or restrict our agency to that which we can define into convenient simplifications. So like, don’t not use them or anything (do you want, basically always), just don’t sanctify them. In the same way that virginity is mostly a construct, sexuality is too.
And I’ll be honest, I wasn’t expecting the “I can’t suck because if I did I’d probably turn into the most voracious glizzy guzzler in history” response, so fuck if I know anymore if my little soapbox statement even applies to the situation at hand tbh, but I do think we sanctify, to our detriment, way too much in modern society, definitely including a lot involving sex and sexuality.
And no, I’m not gifted with brevity, I’m sorry.
edit: oh you are dude, my bad. I got confused somehow.
All that you say is probably valid. My only issue is a semantic one. As far as my understanding of how language works: if you’re a man that would consider sucking another man’s cock then you shouldn’t be using the word “straight” to define yourself.
I’m all in favour of consenting adults doing whatever they want but it’s disingenuous to claim to be one thing whilst contemplating doing the opposite.
I didn’t choose to be straight - it’s just what I am. Hell, I’m sure I would’ve had even more fun if I was bi but it’s just not me.
People were fucking in all variety of combinations long before the concepts of “straight” or “gay” even existed. “Straight” isn’t a thing, it’s a means of describing a pattern, that’s it. Language doesn’t define human activity, human activity invokes language in an attempt to characterize it.
I’m aware of all of that. We use words to convey concepts. The simple truth is… I don’t and never have had the slightest physical attraction to the male anatomy. More power to the guys that do…
That’s totally cool, obviously whatever you feel is what you feel and that’s right, I am not trying to convince you otherwise.
But there is a mountain of difference between “I’ve never been attracted to penis” and “If you’re prepared to change your sexuality for money then your sexuality was a scam in the first place,” which is all my point has ever been.
Don’t suck dick because you don’t want to suck dick, not because doing so will betray some kind of concept of “straight” upon which you are defining yourself, you know?
The OP question was directly addressed to “straight men”. If you choose to put another guy’s pulsing gristle stick into either of your two orifices, whether for pleasure or financial gain, I’d contest that you’re not 100% “straight”…
You’re not a vegan if you eat chicken for profit… but you can be a straight guy who sucks cock for profit?
That’s not my understanding of linguistics and semiotics - but I’m no expert in that field and stand ready to be corrected.
I’d argue you are a vegan if you eat chicken for profit though, because again labels aren’t religion. There’s no score being kept, no penalty applied to you or your veganism because you ate chicken. The moment you stop eating chicken, you’re vegan. Life isn’t all or nothing, and it’s detrimental to think it is.
Again this isn’t religion, there is no cosmic scoresheet that is tallying your purity. If you suck a thousand dicks and then decide after #1001 that you’re straight, fuck it, you’re straight, who the fuck is anyone to say otherwise? There’s just no benefit to thinking or living life like there’s some outsider tallying your score that you have to appease if you want to identify as a whatever.
If you want to suck someone else’s dick just to see what it feels like… is that not the very definition of bi-curious?
I guess it depends on why you want to do it, doesn’t it? Do you want to do it because you are questioning your attractions and potential sexuality? Yeah that’s probably bi-curious. Do you just have some sort of intellectual curiosity? A desire to understand the appeal rather than explore your personal interest? Is somebody offering you $20 to do it? For any of those, I think it’s less black-and-white.
But what I think most and most importantly, is those labels benefit us when we wish to group, find commonality, or define preferences, so they have merit, but they do us disservice when they limit us or restrict our agency to that which we can define into convenient simplifications. So like, don’t not use them or anything (do you want, basically always), just don’t sanctify them. In the same way that virginity is mostly a construct, sexuality is too.
And I’ll be honest, I wasn’t expecting the “I can’t suck because if I did I’d probably turn into the most voracious glizzy guzzler in history” response, so fuck if I know anymore if my little soapbox statement even applies to the situation at hand tbh, but I do think we sanctify, to our detriment, way too much in modern society, definitely including a lot involving sex and sexuality.
And no, I’m not gifted with brevity, I’m sorry.
edit: oh you are dude, my bad. I got confused somehow.
All that you say is probably valid. My only issue is a semantic one. As far as my understanding of how language works: if you’re a man that would consider sucking another man’s cock then you shouldn’t be using the word “straight” to define yourself.
I’m all in favour of consenting adults doing whatever they want but it’s disingenuous to claim to be one thing whilst contemplating doing the opposite.
I didn’t choose to be straight - it’s just what I am. Hell, I’m sure I would’ve had even more fun if I was bi but it’s just not me.
People were fucking in all variety of combinations long before the concepts of “straight” or “gay” even existed. “Straight” isn’t a thing, it’s a means of describing a pattern, that’s it. Language doesn’t define human activity, human activity invokes language in an attempt to characterize it.
I’m aware of all of that. We use words to convey concepts. The simple truth is… I don’t and never have had the slightest physical attraction to the male anatomy. More power to the guys that do…
That’s totally cool, obviously whatever you feel is what you feel and that’s right, I am not trying to convince you otherwise.
But there is a mountain of difference between “I’ve never been attracted to penis” and “If you’re prepared to change your sexuality for money then your sexuality was a scam in the first place,” which is all my point has ever been.
Don’t suck dick because you don’t want to suck dick, not because doing so will betray some kind of concept of “straight” upon which you are defining yourself, you know?
I’m still not sure of your point…
The OP question was directly addressed to “straight men”. If you choose to put another guy’s pulsing gristle stick into either of your two orifices, whether for pleasure or financial gain, I’d contest that you’re not 100% “straight”…
You’re not a vegan if you eat chicken for profit… but you can be a straight guy who sucks cock for profit?
That’s not my understanding of linguistics and semiotics - but I’m no expert in that field and stand ready to be corrected.
I’d argue you are a vegan if you eat chicken for profit though, because again labels aren’t religion. There’s no score being kept, no penalty applied to you or your veganism because you ate chicken. The moment you stop eating chicken, you’re vegan. Life isn’t all or nothing, and it’s detrimental to think it is.
Again this isn’t religion, there is no cosmic scoresheet that is tallying your purity. If you suck a thousand dicks and then decide after #1001 that you’re straight, fuck it, you’re straight, who the fuck is anyone to say otherwise? There’s just no benefit to thinking or living life like there’s some outsider tallying your score that you have to appease if you want to identify as a whatever.
I’m not sure how to interpret you. I’m getting a hint of preachy vibes - but that might just be my reading…
People can have different opinions; because they are just opinions.
Have a lovely day, wherever you are.