Hi NSFW!
I’m looking for advice on verbal dominance. My life partner would love for me to get a bit better in that regard.
A little background:
I’m a dom, definitely. I’ve had several subs, do a lot of rigging and scenes, and in scene I’m very much vocally dominant. But that is because I have the leverage of whips and chains on my side.
The moment that goes away, as bratty as she is, I suddenly find myself out of words to use, and become a little uncertain on what to say, how to act, to keep her attention.
We’ve already talked about it but she can’t really explain what she needs to hear (and just reiterating that endlessly is bound to be uninteresting after a while).
Any tips, ideas, pointers, resources are welcome!
When she mouths off, ask her what she’s expecting to happen next
It may open a door for her to ask you for something, if she goes quiet, you have the options of either telling you what you’ll do, or saying something like “I thought so”
As with all things, there are a few options, you can move into the space, you can withdraw and let them fall, you can brush it aside and move how you choose, you can meet them head-on
You can remain silent, describe what you plan to do, gag her, there are so many options
Brats take work, that’s part of the dynamic!
They push us
Thanks for the great ideas!
Gotta love brats, they challenge, but they’re fun!
If it’s not fun, then we’re not doing it right