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Cake day: March 29th, 2024

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  • I am a dad to two young kids. I know other guys my age that are recent dads and some of them do seem to struggle to adjust. I hear about their wives complaining about how they are constantly golfing or still going out a lot.

    Another commenter here mentioned that having kids changes you and I 100% agree with that. I don’t drink now, I drive like an old man in the name of safety, I spend almost every night at home with my kids and I take them out on the weekends, I cut my hours at work so I can help my wife more often, I don’t watch sports because my kids won’t sit still long enough to watch a game and want to play. My life now is about these kids. I used to think that people that based their lives solely around their kids had no life, but now that I have these kids I appreciate the sacrifices you make to be a parent. All of these changes I realize are better for me too.

    You can talk philosophically about how to raise kids, but I think the number one quality of a good parent is being present for your kids and being willing to adjust your life to what they need. Growing up the number one thing I noticed about kids that had bad relationships with their parents was their parents not being around, whether it be work or whatever else. You gotta be willing to dedicate your time to kids over all else, and if you can’t do that, it will be hard to be a good parent.




  • The new stadiums are another factor that really is ruining sports for me. In my city they are building a new one for the hockey team and it is mostly paid by taxes. So our property taxes are going to sky rocket to build this thing and then they will jack up the game ticket prices so we cannot even afford to go to games.

    They sold it to the public as this was going to be a community building, which is such garbage. Am I going to be able to go down there when no games are happening and skate on the rink? Of course not



  • I’m glad you brought this up, because this is another great point related to the time suck. I have two kids now and every hour I spend watching sports is an hour not spent with my kids or being an absent parent. Makes it hard to justify.

    Recently too I had a brother in law who skipped his infant sons first time trick or treating because his team was in the World Series. It was a big topic of debate for our family.