So I cheated on my boyfriend due to among other things struggles with drug addiction and mental health but i am passed that and he has forgiven me and in turn I have done so much for him and we have a great relationship
when he posted we were back together on his social media he had tons of people come out of the woodwork to tell him not to take me bac and I was a worthless woman that deserved no rights
But why ? It can’t be genine concern for him because these guys hadn’t talked to him in years and weren’t there for him when he posted about my infidelity previously
He also had a few girls come out of the wood work which you would think would be an attempt to date him but it ca’t be that agian they had like 6 months we were broken up they could have done it then
Yo usupport anythign between 2 consenting adults. Why is it rong to forgive the one you love ?
Whether to forgive a cheating partner is a divisive issue. Some people say it’s something they could never move past, others just don’t think it’s a big deal.
I don’t think it’s necessarily men or women - its both. Probably more men commented on your boyfriend’s post because he’s a man.
I can imagine it would be a pretty awful feeling to be in your position - you’ve acknowledged that you messed up, you’ve worked through it with your partner, and now all these people casting judgement on you without understanding the circumstances.
There’s a lot of different aspects to this. The web is full of “drama llamas”. My guilty pleasure is reading /r/aitah posts, even though I know they’re fake it’s still really engaging and reading everyone’s comments is interesting. People say things online that they would just never say to your face. So comments are way more hurtful.
My advice has two parts:
ask your boyfriend to delete the post because the people commenting don’t really know you or the situation and it’s very hurtful
Secondly think through what you would tell a good friend who had been through something like this, it’s probably something like "yeah you did mess up, but everyone does sooner or later, you’ve learned a lot and you’ve worked through it, " et cetera.