I just feel bad watching nsfw videos and im not sure if its normal and sometimes they make me feel sick watching. IM 19 is it normal to have become curious about nsfw stuff? it just annoyed me and im not sure if is should change, i would like to replace my “addiction” with something normal or healthy. if your wondering i come from religious bloodline but dont really adapt to church and such.

What would you advise?

  • AFK BRB Chocolate (CA version)@lemmy.ca
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    1 month ago

    Totally normal to be curious/interested in porn. First thing I’d say is to think about what you’re watching: does it seem like a healthy thing between two or more people, or is someone being abused or degraded? It’s easy to watch a bunch of stuff and get an impression that what you’re seeing is normal, but porn caters to various proclivities and they aren’t all healthy.

    I don’t know what to advise about replacing it. You likely have a normal sex drive with no outlet, and expecting yourself to not be horny is probably unreasonable. Fantasy/masturbation without porn might be more reasonable.

    Might be worth asking yourself what about it makes you feel bad.

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      1 month ago

      There’s nothing inherently wrong with watching someone be degraded either, as long as you understand that porn is fantasy, the people in the video are acting, and you should never do anything like that IRL without consent.

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        1 month ago

        Intellectually, I agree with you, but personally I feel that we can get jaded to things. Maybe just for me, personally, but I worry that if I watched a lot of porn with someone being degraded, degradation would have less impact on me, and I don’t want that to happen. Another aspect, though, is that watching someone being degraded makes me feel shitty, not horny.

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          1 month ago

          Eh. We know violent video games don’t cause violence, so I see no reason to assume porn works any differently. Fair enough if that’s not your thing, though.

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            1 month ago

            I think becoming desensitized to something and becoming motivated to do it are different. I’m not worried that watching degradation porn will make me want to degrade people, but I’m worried it will make it have less of an impact on me.