ok, so, i can masturbate some of the time. i feel in the mood to masturbate, all that. the thing is, it’s very rare and it’s only to fictional men or fantasies of hot women. i can’t really masturbate to IRL women and definitely not men.

i have a very low sex drive, i guess, and i suddenly don’t want to masturbate after a while when some other people could easily keep going for multiple “rounds”. it’s especially moreso the feeling of masturbating rather than feeling horny for any particular reason, even if the few times i do, it’s for the idea of these women or fictional men.

i could imagine having sex with my partner when i get one to try it, but i don’t actually feel sexual attraction to people when i can easily feel romantic attraction. i literally don’t get any sort of tingly feeling, nothing, when i see people.

  • aguyinheat@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    25 days ago

    so there’s a lot of axis when it comes to sexuality, especially around asexuality! i’ll define them for you, and give a few examples, which might help you feel things out for yourself

    • allosexual - asexual

      • this is the spectrum of feeling typical sexual attraction to not feeling it. there’s a lot of points in between allo and ace! for example, i’m demisexual, which means i only develop sexual attraction to people after establishing a strong trusting relationship with them. other examples are like, grey asexuality, aegosexual, etc

    • high libido - low libido

      • this is the spectrum of how horny you get/how often you want to do sex acts. it sounds like you’re on the moderate to low end here, but it’s good to know that it’s not necessarily related to whether you’re ace or not! for example, i’m demi and also high libido

    • sex positive - sex repulsed

      • this axis describes how you feel about sex acts, usually with other people. you can be totally stone cold ace and still enjoy sex, for whatever reason (enjoying other people’s enjoyment, kink stuff, etc) - it’s another thing that’s just, related but doesn’t define asexuality

    • alloromantic - aromantic

      • romantic attraction is its own axis! just like someone might not feel sexual attraction, one may or may not feel romantic attraction. it is also a spectrum, and i think there’s a lot of similar identities in it to the ones on the ace spectrum e.g. demiromatic

    anyways it sounds to me like you’re on the ace spectrum for sure! i think you should read about some of the different identities in the ace spectrum and see if you can relate to any. for example, you might find aegosexual resonates with you:

    Aegosexuals may have sexual fantasies, view sexual content, or masturbate, but typically feel little to no sexual attraction or desire to engage in sexual intercourse. Many aegosexuals fantasize about sex from a third-person perspective