• RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    13 days ago

    Bwahaha, it’s almost always gone the other way for me. Fuck first, then decide if we want to go out. I really despise guys who like “the chase” then lose interest, and I like guys who like sex. In my experience those guys are actually better at dating or monogamy or whatever.

    My husband and I did go on one date and didn’t fuck, the first time we met, because I had to go back & pick up my kids, and the next one was just sex at his house and what’s funny is that both of us said that was the first time we’d had a date without sex.

    • Mickey7@lemmy.worldOPM
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      12 days ago

      good point about ending the male game quickly of how often do i have to see her before she let’s me fuck her

  • lazyneet@programming.dev
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    13 days ago

    One or two. I thought about this as a metric in my early 20s, but now I prefer to meet in a public place for lunch or coffee or something, then sex can follow or not. It’s a routine that affords more safety than a random hookup at a bar or an app or something.

  • SmuttyLad@lemmynsfw.com
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    13 days ago

    For my own part, a couple of dates (3+), or at least spending a decent amount of time together, long enough to know that I probably want a relationship with the person.

    I find sex to be quite intimate and emotional, which is why I’m more selective.

  • dugmeup@lemmynsfw.com
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    13 days ago

    As few as possible. It is completely dependent on the other person. That can range first date to over 6+ months over my dating history. Different strokes for different folks.