Guys, if you were getting hot and heavy with your partner, and they brought up the topic of pegging, and told you they already bought a strap-on and wanted to use it on you, what would you say?
Guys, if you were getting hot and heavy with your partner, and they brought up the topic of pegging, and told you they already bought a strap-on and wanted to use it on you, what would you say?
Huh.
I had not heard of this phrase before.
You are correct, that does… make sense to my brain, to my way of understanding the term.
Thank you!
As to your entire train of logic arguing that reverse pegging is … essentially, an even more extreme inversion of the roles, exageration of the denial of male pleasure…
I think I mostly agree, in the… most direcr and proximate way, as it pertains to the actual act itseld.
The quibble I would have is that… presumably, there could be a woman who would personally feel more… I guess just ‘empowered’ by say… cuffing the mans hands, or moving his body around authoritatively, slapping him on the ass, spitting on his back, maybe leaving some claw or bite marks, all while the man is essentially immobile, restrained.
But I also totally see your perspective as well.
But the uh, the other thing I think are missing is the just absolutely massive amount of shame most hetero, traditional men have when it comes to
being anally penetrated.
enjoying it.
Like… for most straight guys, you let your girl peg you?
You are now gay.
No, that doesn’t literally make any sense… but uh, maybe think of hetero male sexuality as a straightjacket where if you wiggle out of it in anyway, your are just some kind gay, a f@g, etc.
The other part of this, that almost no one likes to talk about:
If most hetero women hear about that?
That a man wanted to be or was pegged?
Even many bi or pan women?
Same thing, you are now gay to them, you are now somewhere between a joke and disgusting, they gossip to all their friends and now they all act that way toward you.
My original comment?
Trying to find a women who would do this, to me?
3 of them. 3 women, I had dated for at least a year, one of them pan, one of them hetero, one of them trans… all had that reaction when I suggested it.
Immediately lost all respect for me and the relationships ended soon afterward.
Granted, I am a biased in that this in particular is my personal expericne, I seem to have had extremely bad luck in this regard, but I use myself as an example to accentuate a point, not make it entirely.
There is still a massive broad stigma against the idea of men being anally receptive.
So… there are… other costs.
I would maybe explain this with some uh… signifier vs signified, hyperreality,.Baudriallard type logic:
The cultural conception of a man being anally receptive is more powerful, is more ‘real’ than the actual levels of pleasure a man is able to have from a deep tissue prostate masssge, the physical control the women has in the act.
The mere suggestion of it is sufficient to ruin your social life, even amongst people who… you woukd think be less traditional and more open minded, but apparently not.
You can probably also tell that I am not so much into humiliation type stuff, given that I left them after they lost respect for me and started calling me slurs in casual conversation and mocking me regularly.
I… guess some people are more into that though.
So there.
Those are the level of power dynamics at play with ‘traditional’ pegging: More or less, social death, relegation to something like an untouchable class.
And you can even see it here in this thread; the women who pop in to say ‘no ew thats a turn off’, even though the OP of this thread has commented in this thread, clarfying that they were asking other men for their opinion.
But women still felt compelled to pop in and express their aversion to pegging.
But uh, yes, trying to collect myself a bit here, I also appreciate your well thought train of thought and perspective.
Perhaps to a good degree because you are… maybe the only woman I have ever been able to have a detailed and frank discussion of this kind of thing with.
That and you aren’t completely sneering at my more crass puns and euphemisms , hah!