• ObjectivityIncarnate@lemmy.world
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    Second panel should be the guy asking why she hasn’t changed to one of the other dozen plus methods she has available, then. Women have lots of options, and can almost always find one with no/tolerable (especially compared to pregnancy) side effects, because hormone-free barrier methods are among the options for her, too.

    Edit: tweaked for less ‘absolute’ wording.

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      The unfortunate thing with birth control is there’s always tradeoffs with every method. IUDs can cause intense pain which may or may not go away after a while, the depo shot can cause a loss of bone density if used for a long period of time, condoms are less pleasurable and depending on the specifics may cause additional discomfort. Pulling out requires you to trust your male partner (a huge ask most of the time) surgical sterilization is basically permanent and requires one to undergo and recover from surgery (and for women an extremely invasive one at that)

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          8 hours ago

          True it is generally regarded as ineffective from a public health perspective. I have known people who relied on it though with some success (in both cases it was a committed relationship and they just relied on it as a temporary stopgap while between birth controls) I’d hazard to say, pulling out is an option if your risk tolerance is high enough, but it’s risky as hell since precum often contains sperm as well

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        8 hours ago

        Yes, I understand that, and tweaked my comment to make that more clear.

        Frankly, the fact that we’re able to temporarily turn off fertility at will at all is extraordinary, tradeoffs or not.

        I of course can understand a woman who can’t find a method that works for her wanting her male partner to use a condom if she doesn’t want to get pregnant. Personally, as a male in the position of her partner, I would sympathize, but would rather have non-penetrative sexual contact, or none at all, rather than presentative sex with a condom, because they take the majority of the pleasure out of the act, for me.