• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    12 小时前

    Neither sex prefers condoms to no condoms.

    I can’t speak for everyone in my gender, but I’ve rarely found an issue with them. Desensitizes the man so he lasts longer, comes pre-lubricated so that’s one less thing to worry about, and neatly addresses the post-sex mess. There’s even a little fun foreplay right before the main event, if you’re feeling kinky.

    No pair of sexual partners ever utilize them unless they have a good reason to (and even with a good reason, most people don’t, lol).

    Especially early in a relationship, they were always bog standard for me. Rarely met a partner who didn’t feel the same way. Admittedly, the AIDS epidemic was in my rear view mirror growing up, so maybe I’m just more paranoid about unprotected sex than the Zoomers.

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      7 小时前

      I can’t speak for everyone in my gender, but I’ve rarely found an issue with them.

      Not what I said, though. Do you prefer sex with a condom to sex without? If not, you align with what I said.

      Especially early in a relationship, they were always bog standard for me.

      That’s obviously in the “good reason” category. Also agrees with the other part of my sentence, as tons of short-sighted people forgo them altogether, including one-night stands with strangers.

      • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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        7 小时前

        Do you prefer sex with a condom to sex without?

        I don’t have a strong opinion either way. I like sex and I like a sense of safety. With new partners, or old partners who fear a risk of pregnancy, condoms guarantee both and that makes me feel good coming and going.

        I don’t prefer unprotected sex when it leaves me paranoid the day after. There’s more to the experience than just degrees of friction.

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          5 小时前

          You’re missing my point, which I thought was clear, but add “when the condom is not preventing anything” to the end of the bit you quoted to clarify it.

          My point is that, unless you have a good reason to do it (the source of the “sense of safety” and the prevention of the “paranoia”, described above), you’re obviously not going to do it.

          If your partner is infertile, and you know that both of you have no STIs, neither of you are going to want to use a condom. Condoms are used because they’re needed, not because they’re wanted.