• AllonzeeLV@lemmy.world
      201·
      1 year ago

      It’s very important for one’s mental health to remember that everything humans do is fleeting and ultimately unimportant on a long enough time scale. The idea of meeting accomplishment metrics society imposes is just a manipulation to get you to do stuff you otherwise wouldn’t to benefit people that have never and will never care about you. You’ll only find fleeting, shallow, false purpose falling into the trap of chasing their approval.

      Find connections that give you bliss if you can, beyond that, to hell with not meeting the standards of the sociopaths in charge. Dictate your own purpose, and don’t fill it with unnecessary pressure.

  • Hereforpron2@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
    11·
    1 year ago

    I can’t stop myself from thinking about the people who have helped me in the past who I have since allowed to grow distant, and with whom I’ve failed to communicate during my tough times (and since, tbh). I don’t have (m)any memories of doing actively cruel things, but my brain won’t let these ones go, and always brings them to mind in the moments where it’s obvious I can do nothing about it. Why?

    • SuckMyWang@lemmy.world
      6·
      1 year ago

      Guilt is why. People help people, then people grow apart, it’s sounds fairly normal. You could argue that they failed to communicate with you when you were going through your tough times but then ask yourself if you’ve suspected others of going through the same and if you’ve sufficiently reached out to them. You’re memories connect you to the past so it’s natural you’re brain will cycle over them and if you don’t have a large friends group it’s likely you’re need for human connection will bring you back frequently. Point is you don’t need to go back to ease your guilt, you can help others in the same way as the people who helped you. Build new connections, move forward and if the feeling stays as strong you will have your answer.

      • Hereforpron2@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        Thank you. The hardest part are the people who reached out a few times who I neglected, making it feel much more one-sided. But hopefully looking and paying it forward will help with how I think about the past. That’s a great point and idea.