I mean, whatever works for you and for your relationship.
I’m sure some relationships are like you described, and that does seem asphyxiating, but there’s a middle ground where one can trust a partner with shared finances knowing that they are responsible and that big ticket items are discussed and agreed between the two.
As for secrets, it depends. If it is something that relates directly to my partner and affects them, I will tell them always. Otherwise, no. There’s no expectation from them that I’ll share every last secret about everyone they know, or vice versa.
I mean, whatever works for you and for your relationship.
I’m sure some relationships are like you described, and that does seem asphyxiating, but there’s a middle ground where one can trust a partner with shared finances knowing that they are responsible and that big ticket items are discussed and agreed between the two.
As for secrets, it depends. If it is something that relates directly to my partner and affects them, I will tell them always. Otherwise, no. There’s no expectation from them that I’ll share every last secret about everyone they know, or vice versa.