I did not really want a kid but got one, the second one was wanted, the third one a surprise.

I am lucky to be in a good place in life and with a partner that is a great mother and we are a good team all around in regards to raising a family. Our kids get a lot of love from both of us and I like to think we provide them with an environment in which they can thrive.

But let’s be frank, raising kids is rewarding but still can be hard even when your situation is good. It takes a massive amount of time, energy and money. Having childs is often portrayed as a somewhat easy heavenly thing, which is not true.

I can only imagine the amount of work a disabled kid requires and to be honest I don’t know if I could make it. You have my respect for that.

I have kids, 3 of them, did not want any. It gets better! It’s normal to not fall instantly in love with them, even for the mother. It’s a new person in your life and require that you adapt and change a lot of things.

It’s not clear from your post what is exactly going on with your wife but postpartum syndrome is a reel thing and may be affecting her.

If you need help reach out to family and friends if that’s possible. Depending on where you are in the world you may be able to find local support for new families, or even dad support groups.

I have a surface 8 pro too and the easiest way to set it up was to use Aurora (or bluefin if you prefer Gnome). All the drivers were preloaded and if you want to use luks with the tpm it is a breeze to setup.

https://universal-blue.org/

You can achieve the same with other distros, I’ve done it with Arch and Nixos too but if you don’t have a solid Linux background I strongly suggest Aurora or Bluefin for an easy and solid installation.

This works very well for tech enthusiasts and people who self-host nextcloud at home.

The issue is when you are a government or university, it becomes harder to get all your users (which are probably not all tech savvy) to install a third party app store deal with the Android warnings about installing from third-parties, etc etc.

And this is probably the user base Google are targeting with this move (assuming it’s malicious) . When the higher ups complain that their files are not syncing and need to install things with a special procedure they sometimes wonder why they are not using M365 or Google which seems hassle free.

The two options I know of are Headscale and Netbird.

Gcompris is pretty good for kids. https://www.gcompris.net/