It feels like companies like this eventually become vehicles for like 5 people to make lots of money. You can’t let go the guy making these mistakes - lining his pocket is the purpose of the company! It’d be ridiculous to fire him! Unless some of the other 4 people making money decide he’s keeping them from lining their pockets.

The vagueness of these posts get to me a bit. Do they like clean sheets cause they feel nice, or do they change their sheets in the middle of the night because they might’ve sweat on them and they can’t stop thinking about it? People use OCD too casually, but people also take someone talking about their illness, latch onto the part easiest to minimize, and run with it.

If you think you might have OCD, get diagnosed and get care if you can, but if that’s not possible, find some legitimate, useful advice from reputable sources.

https://iocdf.org/books/

If you can’t stop thinking that you’re probably faking, it doesn’t hurt people who have been diagnosed for you to take some books out of the library and find out if the advice helps you. In fact, it lets the library know those resources are in demand so they’ll be there for others, later.

It’s valuable for .ml to have duplicates since certain instances and numerous individuals are defederated from them. There are also people who are trying to diversify the fediverse by moving communities off .world. Big, opinionated communities like the different news communities are going to spawn new versions as people disagree with mod decisions or the background culture and feel they can’t have the conversations they want.

Some splitting is inevitable, imo, and healthy, though whether it’s good in this or that particular case is a useful conversation to have. Merging communities is also useful, but only when it makes sense (one is barely moderated or barely used, or people have defederated from an instance one is on because of spam, etc.)

I think it’s a case by case basis type situation.

Raft was kind of interesting, and chill if you turn off “sharks keep attacking for some reason” mode.

I watched someone play Satisfactory and they had a blast.

Dinkum was fun and not stressful, but the characters have big heads and it’s got some typical farming life sim elements that were inspired by harvest moon and animal crossing.

Is Coral Island too anime in style?

I get reminded of this quote from their studio exec:

“You can say, ‘Okay, we are exploiting, you know, child labor,’ right? Or you can say: we are offering people anywhere in the world the capability to get a job, and even like an income,” Corazza said. “So I can be like, 15 years old, in Indonesia, living in a slum, and then now with just a laptop, I can create something, make money, and then sustain my life.”

When I read that quote a few weeks ago, I thought about how that’s the kind of argument people who travel abroad to rape kids use to justify themselves.

It feels related to this, somehow. Maybe something about how children are treated like a disposable resource or an object to be used unless the person who owns them (parents?) are powerful, well to do, white, etc, etc. And that’s because their owner is those things, so they’re valuable property. I’m not sure if I’m articulating myself well. Too much sun.

I’ll probably never be totally sure (since i started treating my anxiety before i started thinking about these episodes, so i never described them to a shrink), but I believe I used to disassociate during my worst bouts of anxiety. I thought of them positively, because the incidents meant i wasn’t having a panic attack, but they were just a different symptom of the same problem. My memories afterwards were vague or nonexistant. What I do recall is feeling slightly apart from myself the whole time and doing things on autopilot.

It also used to be a relief when a period of intense stress dulled into depression. Even if I still couldn’t cope or do anything, at least I didn’t feel anything, right?

None of that is really great, turns out. It wasn’t that I’d gotten over my anxiety in the short term. It was just a new manifestation of it.

i used to be like “sometimes i get so anxious i kinda zone out and separate from myself a bit!” and thought this was great cause i could get more done but turns out it’s not great actually to do that

Thanks for sharing! I’d only heard of dragonsweeper before.

i definitely relate to overthinking things i spent a bunch of money on.

maybe when you’re doing things again, write stuff down so if it bricks again you can say what you did on one of the tech forums on here and get advice?

screwdrivers for shaky hands might be a next good investment!

https://www.quiltingboard.com/main-f1/helpfull-screwdrivers-old-hands-t172668.html

i dunno. if you try to see it as a learning experience, maybe later on you’ll be able to shrug off the scratches and so on. as i look up at my poorly spackled ceiling, knowing i can do better now, i get less annoyed seeing it.

If we’re sharing honest opinions minus filter here: if you worded your question differently, more people would answer, and they would be less defensive and have more interesting answers. You’ve limited the people who will reply.

Condescensing and annoying people like myself will still have a lot to say, but people with fun stories and heartwarming anecdotes will not want to put themselves out there for what seems like will be a snarky put-down as a response.

Specifically, the “kiddie game” opening was fine, but the way you worded the followup came across less like you were confused and more like you wanted to have a group shit-on of adults who play mario kart. Being a little more vague would’ve been your friend here. “but it looks like i was wrong” might’ve convinced people who don’t want to be shit on to give an answer.

The part about it being unfair by design was fine, but the last paragraph again comes across as “anyone want to hang here and make fun of the losers who like this obvious bullshit?”

anyway, i don’t play party video games generally but my impression is they want to appeal to different skill levels, abilities, and ages, so they often have additions that level the playing field so it’s not just Gamer Frieda winning while everyone else gets bored and gets out the playing cards (which can also have a random quality that means sometimes the newbie will win or at least not be bored and frustrated).

These catch up elements add extra elements for dedicated players to account for, which is more memorization and reflex training, which is a kind of fun for the type of people who play outside parties.

i know most of ao3’s budget goes to server costs. they get by with volunteer labor and donations, but they mostly host text. i genuinely have no idea what a sustainable model would look like for the fediverse, that doesn’t just treat volunteers like disposable rags we toss when they get inevitable burnout.

I kind of figured it was something like subscriber and data loss, but my immediate mental image when someone says that bit is like, way more dramatic than that because of its regular use in action movies.

could just be a sign i’ve watched too many movies, though.

I’m all for promoting alternatives but as a mild critique i’ll say not knowing you or what you dislike about lemmy specifically, the “no matter the cost” part of the bio reads kinda creepy.

i think the healing process gets to be about you, and what you need, and not them. Pressure to forgive is useless. Choose to work at it if it you believe it might help.

I’m not sure I’ve ever forgiven my childhood bullies. I live my life away from them and rarely think about them. This is a way of finding peace, too. Working on healing yourself, (with therapy or whatever) becoming stronger, and just…making them irrelevant to you. Some people do need to figure out why they did it or forgive them, but the important thing is that the victim decided they needed it, not because people told them they had to.

if you wouldn’t do it to a cis abuser, it basically means you see trans people as their agab and only ever use the correct pronoun for the sake of good manners. not because you think they’re really the gender they say. if you do think they are the gender they say and you’re using it exclusively to use systemic power to hurt, that’s a slur.

That’s my take. It’s not about the abuser. It’s about if you believe trans people in the same way you believe cis people. And with speech that’s approaching a slur, it’s about if you’re the kind of person who uses those.

mbin has an “abandoned” tab when you search communities. does lemmy have something like that?

always made me wince when people complimented my dad on his weight loss when he was recovering. i don’t know if it bothered him, though.

I like that they put some guides up ahead of their announcement. At some point I followed polygon on here, and I remember the guides being some of the most frequent updates.

I watched some streamers play it and was just wondering why they weren’t anymore. Now I know!