Most women would be more willing to have casual sex if it was safer, and women are just as horny as men. Gay hook up culture is a utopia straight people could have if a woman being “easy” didn’t put her in danger - physically, emotionally, or socially. Pregnancy (especially with fear of stealthing), stalking and damages to social reputation are huge concerns with women, and collectively in most cultures many men shoot themselves in the foot here.

Orientation is fluid, and sometimes the people that you have sex with are not people you would want to be in relationships with. There are piles and piles of “straight men” who actively seek out sexual encounters with other men. Social stigma hampers men here to.

Organized BDSM communities tend to get taken over by dangerous people. Frameworks and rules don’t override unhealthy dynamics.

I don’t understand domination or topping. Just doesn’t click for me. I had to top a few times when I did SW and I hated it.

Submission is just so freeing. My fantasies are being in some form of slavery, which I did have for a little while. When it’s safe, I love some snuff/disposal talk. I have a therapist and don’t actually want to die lol, but it’s just such an intense and exciting fantasy. Having a contract where I am recognized as chattel just rockets me off to subspace.

I’m not into orgasming at all with another person. If a guy gets really fixated on me cumming for him, it really makes it hard to stay in the mood.

Very fun. I was collared and owned, my owner found another guy to share me with. He’d also use my mouth while I was on a fucking machine.