Or less common opinions that you’ve been waiting for a chance to share?
Apologies if this has been asked before; I didn’t see it among recent posts and I like to hear everyone’s hot takes.
Or less common opinions that you’ve been waiting for a chance to share?
Apologies if this has been asked before; I didn’t see it among recent posts and I like to hear everyone’s hot takes.
Most women would be more willing to have casual sex if it was safer, and women are just as horny as men. Gay hook up culture is a utopia straight people could have if a woman being “easy” didn’t put her in danger - physically, emotionally, or socially. Pregnancy (especially with fear of stealthing), stalking and damages to social reputation are huge concerns with women, and collectively in most cultures many men shoot themselves in the foot here.
Orientation is fluid, and sometimes the people that you have sex with are not people you would want to be in relationships with. There are piles and piles of “straight men” who actively seek out sexual encounters with other men. Social stigma hampers men here to.
Organized BDSM communities tend to get taken over by dangerous people. Frameworks and rules don’t override unhealthy dynamics.
BDSM communities make great hunting grounds for predators, so they attract them unfortunately
They’re often charismatic and present themselves as authorities
I have nothing to do with my local scene. It’s too small and I’ve observed it from the outside
I think the element of danger in heterosexual female sexuality is a thing, but I also don’t think it’s as big of a cause for women’s general preference for…. Choosiness? As you may think.
Every woman I’ve ever known that’s decided to experiment with other women has told me how confused and frustrated they are at how difficult it is to find another woman to fuck.
Like. If danger was the only reason, either with physical safety or stds or pregnancy, you’d expect to see the lesbian community as slutty as the gay male community. And it just…. Isn’t.
I think most women get in relationships way faster, is part of the issue. All of the women past a certain age are racing against time, and searching for marriage.
Not in the slightest
A big factor is the society in which you live, so perhaps in a more religious place like 'Murica that carries some weight, but I assure you that it’s not like that whatsoever where I live
I’m more of a marrying type than my fiancée, and I always have been
Itbecomes risky to have children
I agree with you there
Children are fundamentally incompatible with my lifestyle, so that was never an issue
Yeah it’s unbelievable the amount of shaming there is around sex, and I agree with you that women are judged more harshly than men when thier sexuality falls outside what society deems acceptable.
On a related note, it really grinds my fuckin’ gears that society tends to think there’s something wrong with someone if they express sexuality outside what’s deemed acceptable.
I don’t know if women are judged more harshly than men by american society as a whole for their sexual preferences.
It feels to me that it’s either close to the same or a little bit in women’s favor.
I’m sure there are extremes that make anything I’m saying completely invalid, but if you isolate the center of the bell curve, I feel like the women get slightly better treatment than men do.
For instance, if you’re a guy and you’re hanging out with your bros and you see two women walk by and your bro goes, hey, those two women are lesbians and they sleep with each other. You are, as a bog standard, heterosexual American man, more likely to say, “Nice!” than “Gross!”
Whereas if you are told two men are gay with each other, as a bog-standard heterosexual American man, you are more likely to say “Gross!” than “Nice!”
Make no mistake I definately think men are judged for their sexuality. What I originally said was from a cishet perspective so there’s a lot of room for me to be wrong.