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  • or microwave with a wet paper towel over it.

    While that worked for decades, it’s where air fryers really shine.

    Outside will dry out and get crispy, but the inside retains moisture. I searched online first to make sure it was a thing, but there’s some math involved with how big it is because it’s so fast.

    But I put off getting one for years because I didn’t see the use for it. But I can’t remember the last time I used my microwave now. Everything that needs reheated goes in the air fryer.

    Just don’t put a liner in till it’s pre-heated or it turns into a flamethrower


  • You don’t need to be a billionaire or even own a boat…

    People stage accidents on rented boats and even cruise ships fairly often.

    Regardless of if it works and they get away with it, a lot of people have seen Dexter.

    Billionaires can just outspend the government on lawyers to get away with anything. So there’s probably a higher percentage who assume they can get away with it.

    Because DA’s are obsessed with win rate, they give cushy plea deals to people who can pay for good lawyers. Regular people and the government are the opposite, and innocent people are forced to take plea deals because time served and probation is always better than a 1% chance of 25 years in prison.

    For a billionaire they just have to keep stalling till the money runs out. Even where Kirk got shot, the local officials were immediately freaking out over how they were going to pay for it all. So it doesn’t even take being a millionaire in some places. There’s a reason the children of lawyers are usually insufferable…




  • It’s not innate…

    Innately humans are just animals. It takes effort to get people on the same page that cooperating is usually best

    But we stopped teaching kids that in school 20 years ago.

    That’s the sad truth about it. It’s not that the right corrupted a generation, just that between them an the neoliberals, no one wanted to help them. They both wanted brain dead tribalism because that’s what their mutual donors want

    It honestly shouldn’t be that hard for everyone to follow the string back to "no child left behind’ but I remember pointing out this would happen 30 years ago, and I thought it was obvious back then too.


  • If you’ve never read the Tao Te Ching, it could actually help

    It’s not gonna solve all your problems, but that books thousands of years old and helped millions and millions of people deal with what you’re talking about.

    It’s a really short (and cheap) book, it’s worth a shot.

    I just feel like I’m trying so very hard at all at this is all and to read so many comments that I’m not trying hard enough is a bit heartbreaking

    Like I said, don’t jump straight to trying to react appropriately. Focus on not reacting poorly in the heat of the moment.

    Break it down even more if you want. Setting small frequent goals so they can be reached consistently is going to solve that issue where you feel like nothing is done. Like, a first goal can be just stay calm the next time you get heated. Not a permanent personality change, you just need that one good interaction to hit the goal and your brain will give you dopamine.

    Keep it up long enough, and it becomes normal. Then you make your goal slightly harder to get more dopamine. Think of it like a video game, because they’re already designed to exploit how our brains work.

    Quick edit:

    But don’t talk about it. Talking about achieving goals gives the same dopamine hit. And why so many people fall into the trap of just talking about stuff

    The Tao gets into that as well, but science has caught up enough to know why.


  • Finding a bipolar person that fully accepts their diagnosis is as likely as finding someone in prison who admits they’re guilty…

    It’s a bad rollercoaster where people improve, feel like they don’t need meds, and then stop causing issues.

    Medicating it, gets rid of the “highs” that the patient has been used to their whole lives. And it’s very hard to convince them that’s worth the tradeoff when the meds are barely holding back a manic phase.

    OP doesn’t just need a therapist and more/different drugs, they need to go to detox and get sober off all the random shit they’re self medicating with. Especially the meth and ketamine, it’s not just bipolar that’s an issue.



  • One of her favorite things to ask me is “how can you deal with X?” And I get frustrated and say “I don’t know.” Because if I fucking knew I wouldn’t be in therapy.

    She’s not a mind reader…

    Tell her how you do deal with it, even if it’s not ideal.

    Then she’ll lead you to talk about other ways you could have handled it. If you’re getting frustrated and lashing out just talking about a hypothetical, what the fuck are you doing in real life?

    You want to react well in situations, and that’s great, and the first step is getting help.

    But I think you need to adjust expectations. Before you can react well, you have to not react shitty.

    Aim for that as your first goal.

    If you’ve never read the Tao Te Ching, it could actually help. It’s all about just letting go and not working against yourself, bend don’t break basically.