• rah@feddit.ukEnglish
    14·
    10 days ago

    it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

    But is improper to do so. The proper way to refer to a person who is present is by using their name.

    • Skua@kbin.earth
      61·
      10 days ago

      You don’t use the person’s name every time when you’re talking about them in their presence. If I’m with my friends Mark and Fergus, and I’m telling Mark a story about something that happened to me and Fergus earlier that day, I’m going to use “he” or “his” to refer to Fergus a lot.

      “Can’t believe how close we came to an accident on the way here. We were walking past a building with some scaffolding on it, and a brick just about hit me on the head. Fergus was looking up at the site anyway because his company is advertising on the site, so he saw it fall and stopped me just on time.”

      • rah@feddit.ukEnglish
        13·
        10 days ago

        You don’t use the person’s name every time when you’re talking about them in their presence.

        Those who appreciate polite behaviour do.

        • Skua@kbin.earth
          31·
          10 days ago

          “Can’t believe how close we came to an accident on the way here. We were walking past a building with some scaffolding on it, and a brick just about hit me on the head. Fergus was looking up at the site anyway because Fergus’s company is advertising on the site, so Fergus saw it fall and stopped me just on time.”

          Nobody talks like this

          • rah@feddit.ukEnglish
            11·
            9 days ago

            LOL people talk like this. I think perhaps you meant to say that nobody you know talks like this.

    • kinsnik@lemmy.world
      2·
      10 days ago

      maybe i have never been in proper situations, then, because in my experience, people will use pronouns or names indistinctly