Also because death by shaken baby syndrome is unfortunately a very common thing

Forewarnig of “every kid is different”, so ymmv.

One of my kids would fall asleep while nursing as well but keep sucking in his sleep! But hey you found what works for you (see forewarnig).

For the first 2 weeks (at least) yeah that’s all they do: eat, sleep, fill diapers. However it’s never too early to have some cuddle/play time. Gentle caresses all over, like a light massage, especially after bath time with some oil maybe. Singing (or even just talking to them) is great as you’ll soon start to see them reacting to your voice.

As you’ll surely know their eyesight is not great at the beginning, but you will notice when they get more alert of their surrounding.

Skin to skin contact also is a great way to make them happy.

Apart for that, it’s way too soon to start worrying about “let’s not make a dick of this human”.

I recommend a book called “wonder weeks”, and once you have recovered from sleep deprivation, “raising boys”. BUT EVERY KID IS DIFFERENT, so don’t take them as the absolute truth, more like guidelines and food for thought.

Maybe get him some sensory toys, it’s a great way for them to start learning to explore stuff.

And finally, remember that kids learn by copying what they see. A lot of kids grow messed up because unfortunately they come from messed up situations.

He WILL make you mad and angry. Remember that anger is a secondary emotion, you need to be able to breathe and recognize what you’re angry at. And you can tell them, and also that you need a minute to calm down. If they see you dealing with strong emotions in a healthy way they’ll learn too (but also they WILL make you made on purpose as they learn boundaries by pushing them. Yes, they are little sociopaths).

There’s ton more stuff of course but the fact that you care and you’re concerned is already a good step. We all mess up in some way, but being able to put your ego aside and say sorry to them is a big thing. Don’t feel like you should always know the answers, we all make it up as we go!

Congratulations and good luck!

I think you mean Jami (single m).

It’s a nice concept but I’ll try to get my xmmp server nice and secured.

I thought the same! And sword for kings!

What’s the IP address (and related info, gateway and dns) you get on linux and what is the one in Windows?

Selfhosted gotify rules

You have no idea why that happened though. Are you absolutely 100% sure he’s the only bad actor in the relationship? Maybe it wasn’t “just an affair”.

Don’t draw conclusions from limited information.

Good thing they’re not someone but something

And then we should spitroast it!

Well, imagine she’s standing between the two of them instead.

Spitroasting is |-°Π-|

Yeah, the AP ones

https://www.science.org/content/article/people-would-rather-be-electrically-shocked-left-alone-their-thoughts

Hum, not my experience. I run it on an old pc as a podman container, for me and my wife, exactly for the same use case of OP: auto uploading the pictures/videos on our phones. Upload is almost instantaneous. Browsing files is fine, but I usually use a separate software to index/search the photos on the upload directory. For all kind of files (documents etc) is good.

On buses the card payment system is (usually) not real time. The card info is processed overnight. This assuming the network connection between the bus and the processing system is up. Mobile networks towers do have batteries, but only for few hours. Only in remote areas they have generators (I’d expect a few in cities but mostly not).

Yes

https://www.home-assistant.io/integrations/tado

You can also control locally (i.e. without internet connection) using homekit integration.

Been working fine for me for a couple of years.

Anymore? Where do you think RTFM comes from, people never read the manual.

Poorly

I’d say, try to identify WHY they are drifting towards her, and see if you (both) can change that underlying cause.

In my case no technical/IT solution (and I’m an IT person). We just talked. If we needed more help with something we asked each other. Sometimes you can preempt (e.g. putting in a wash load), sometimes you are just too tired for going with a walk with the baby and so you ask.

We were lucky that I need less sleep than her and we were already in a routine about shopping, admin, cooking etc. But she had more of a view of what kind of baby clothes we needed, because she was in touch with other moms (so they swapped clothes when they grew out of them). That and the health checks (and vaccinations) are the only thing that were pretty much only on her (health checks because the hospital had her contact details, plus health checks were for her too). She had much more parental leave than me (9 months vs 2 weeks!).

Basically if there was anything to do around the house (cleaning, shopping, cooking, admin) that I could do, I did. Stuff related to “baby admin” she did. That is not to say she did nothing around the house, just that when you are surviving in 2hours of sleep at a time it gets difficult!

Tl, dr: talk talk talk

Well, in case my username wasn’t clear enough lol