You might think it is normal for you as you have the habit, but I know plenty of people that do not give handshakes or any form of physical contact. So it is a possibility that she might find it awkward and unnecessary, and so it catches her off guard. As others pointed out, thinking about why that happens is pointless and though you might wonder this to be thoughtful, it’s better to just wait for her to raise the hand instead of you. If she does not, then there’s no need.

This is insane. Why is everyone redefining the feminist movement!? Why so many “this feminism but”? Feminism is the belief in and advocacy of political, economic, and social equality of the sexes.

Do you believe sexes should have equal rights in society? Yes? You’re a feminist. Don’t be afraid of the term. That means that you bought up the anti-feminist propaganda. It’s like going about saying “I’m against the genocide, but not the kind where I hate the jews or support Hamas or terrorist but I believe in not killing children but of course not the kind of belief where I’d attack israeli sold…” Like wtf is this. That’s the definition. Stop tiptoeing. Call it out when you see it. Help your fellow human beings and keep on with your life.

Not questioning it but it is interesting how it is not seen as problematic to depict and dress as fighting for the confederacy when it was in favour of keeping slaves, but Nazis are too much.

I play cis males only, but not as a rule. I just generally will make male characters, likely in part to feeling better prepared at interpreting them, and in part that I feel like I would not play another gender correctly. I understand that it is an illusion, as I could simply play them as any other human/non-human being, especially as I’ve played other species without issue. But I feel like I would not be able to give them the nuance and characteristics they deserve, and would end up defaulting to cis male attitudes.

I also tend to want to play old characters, as I feel like young ones are too boring. They tend to have too short of a history to have an interesting identity and lore behind them, and I love the idea of facing large challenges later in life while struggling with the decisions of the past and our own will to change. I played in a one-shot where I made an old farm veterinarian that would roam the lands helping people with their animals, who had a fall-off with one of his sons for joining the army of an oppressive despot, and a merchant daughter that traded in stolen artifacts. Rumour had it my character had killed his own wife, and in reality what had happened was that she poisoned her because she was sick and suffering but the religious fanatics did not want to let her die while she suffered. Love characters with personality problems and dense pasts and a complicated family.

Ghost of Tsushima. After completing both Horizon games because people on the internet + a friend said it was good… THEY ARE NOT ON THE SAME LEVEL AT ALL (imo). To me, Ghost is FAR better than horizon games, runs better, the story is muuuuch better, the characters are great, the gameplay is addictively fun, music is amazing, setting is beautiful (though not historically accurate), etc. If you are looking at ghost vs horizon on what to play, pick ghost a thousand times. Horizon is not a bad game, just not on the same league as people on the internet make it sound. Honestly the story and characters are bland and lacking. Idk why but it feels like people these days have a low bar when it comes to fantasy, likely because there is an insane hunger for it. Ghost is not a masterpiece at all, it is just better than Horizon. Looking forward to Ghost of Yotei.

My two cents: Imo the question is deeply flawed. “Win a girl” and “being out of someone’s league” are assumptions that prevent you from reaching a rational answer. It is like asking “which color makes me look more like a french planet?” It just does not make sense. My reasoning is that (as others pointed out) a girl is not something you win, because relationships were never a game. Nobody talks like this about friends, or how to “win” your brother’s trust and friendship. It is a made up “hustler rat” mindset that has permeated through the “winner-loser” trope, and prevents people from seeing the opposite sex as a fellow human being. So then leagues are a deformation of people’s personal compatibility and preferences. Someone “out of your league” could at most be interpreted as “lack of compatible lifestyle, goals, interests, and ideals”. And even those factors in a person change over time as we grow and alter our interests. Sometimes we like calm people around us, sometimes we prefer someone that pulls us out of our comfort zone, or listens and is attentive, reflexive, or conscious about a topic we are also worried about, and so we relate to each other through our way of thinking. And then very often we even fall or become infatuated with the idea of someone that we built in our heads, which seems to happen far too often.

As some other commenters said, the more you interact and show interest and care for people, the more they will surprise you and the more likely you will find meaningful connections, maybe even a relationship. People make the relationship the goal and forget about the people, turning human contact into an empty experience.